ARCADIA

Arcadia, by Lauren Groff, is the story of the rise and fall of a hippie commune, examined through the perspective of one of its residents.  Bit is a child of Arcadia, the first baby born after the community was founded.  Called “Bit” because of his tiny size – he was three pounds at birth – he is loved and petted by the entire community as a child.  But the community is diseased from within – Handy, the founder and leader, becomes corrupt and controlling and feuds with Bit’s father Abe.  Arcadia is a Utopian dream during Bit’s childhood, but is already beginning to crumble by his adolescence.  In adulthood, Bit must reconcile the memories he holds of the loving community of his early years with the outside world that he now is forced to join.

There were many themes in Arcadia, but what I found most interesting was the book’s discussion of the choice between freedom and community.  In one scene, the adult Bit muses over the “fragile social contract” that governs both Arcadia and his current home of Manhattan:

It leaves him breathless at times, how much faith people put in one another.  So fragile, the social contract: we will all stand by the rules, move with care and gentleness, invest in the infrastructure, agree with the penalties of failure.  That this man diving his truck down the street won’t, on a whim, angle into the plate glass and end things.  That the president won’t let his hand over over the red button and, in moment of rage or weakness, explode the world.  The invisible tissue of civilization: so thin, so easily rendable.  It’s a miracle that it exists at all.

Haven’t we all contemplated that from time to time?  The same idea (less eloquent, though) often comes on me when I am approaching a green light.  I have to put my trust in the likelihood that the drivers coming in the opposite direction will respect that red means stop and green means go, and that they have red and I have green.  Such a basic concept, so many lives riding on everyone accepting it and agreeing together that green means go and red means stop.  And that was part of the problem with Arcadia: they lived by their own set of rules, but not everyone accepted or abided by those rules.

And then, Bit and his daughter talking about freedom and community with an elderly Amish woman:

She stands and shrugs.  It is lonely, she says.  Five years, I was lonely.  Then I realized that I was not happy, and would do anything to be taken in and loved.  It seems a give-and-take, you know?  Freedom or community, community or freedom.  One must decide the way one wants to live.  I chose community.

Why can’t you have both? says Grete, frowning.  I think you could have both.

You want both, Glory says, you are destined to fail.

Glory goes on to describe the Amish reaction to Arcadia when it first arose: horrified by the free-living hippies, the Amish gathered together and decided to help the community only to the extent that they would keep them from starving.  When Arcadia began to disintegrate – as the Amish knew it would – they would stand back and let the commune fail.

Reasonable, and probably more than most would do anyway.  But there are casualties when Arcadia fails: mostly Bit’s peers, the children.  They didn’t join Arcadia because they necessarily agreed with its aims and philosophies.  They were either brought along when their parents joined, or like Bit they were born into the commune.  Bit comes out better than most, but he carries his own wounds from his years in Arcadia.  As he grows old, Bit is closest to his old Arcadia friends; while he likes his life in New York he has not truly made friends “on the Outside.”  The Arcadian children catapult through life in vastly different directions: they become one-hit-wonders, moguls, Suburbanites, drug addicts.  Bit cautiously builds himself a life in New York until family tragedy forces him back to temporarily resume his residence in the overgrown ruins of Arcadia:

He will miss this quiet full of noise: the nighthawks, the way the woods breathe, the things moving unsuspected through the dark.  But he will take with him the canisters full of blasted images and have the pleasure of living them again.  They are not nothing, the memories.

In the end, Arcadia reads like an elegy to idealism.  Little Bit never loses it, even as the world changes around him.  It’s a beautifully written, sad and sweet book full of heart and a little rebellion.  The characters – even the peripheral characters – are three-dimensional and memorable.  And Bit himself is heart personified.

Recommended.

Get the book!  Arcadia, by Lauren Groff (not an affiliate link).

Reading Round-Up: October 2012

Reading is my oldest and favorite hobby.  I literally can’t remember a time in my life when I didn’t love to curl up with a good book.  Here are my reads for October, 2012…

Freddy and Fredericka, by Mark Helprin – Freddy and Fredericka are the Prince and Princess of Wales, but the throne is on the line.  Freddy has come under fire for his affair with Lady Phoebe Boylinghotte and for a series of embarrassing media gaffes, which culminated in his being locked outside of Buckingham Palace, stark nekkid, tarred and feathered and wearing a fried chicken box on his head.  To prove their fitness to rule, Freddy and Fredericka are exiled, dropped from a helicopter over the strange land of New Jersey, and told not to come home until they have reconquered the United States.  As they travel incognito through America, attempting to fulfill their mission, Freddy and Fredericka see each other with new eyes and learn to love one another.  This book had me cracking up every other page.  The combination of “physical” comedy writing, tongue-in-cheek jabs at the British royalty, and sly wordplay was hilarious.  But there was beautiful writing, too, and abundant sweetness.

The Casual Vacancy, by J.K. Rowling – Hmmm.  As I read J.K. Rowling’s new book for adults – which examines the residents of a small town in the throes of a local election – the thought that occurred to me more than anything else was “The Dursleys would fit right in here.”  Everyone in Pagford was… indisputably… and excuse me for saying this… muggles.  The muggliest muggles of all, to be exact.  There was so much dark sadness here.  The Casual Vacancy was mainly a character study of a group of people who were particularly close to the election, and most of them were downright despicable.  Seriously, I didn’t mind Andrew, I rather liked Krystal, Gaia and Sukhvinder, and I kind of weirdly appreciated Samantha.  Everyone else, I pretty much wanted to throttle.  I was toting The Casual Vacancy to and from the NICU to read during downtime, and every time someone asked me how it is, I said “I can’t recommend it.”  And I really can’t.  It’s not that I didn’t appreciate the book (like would be too strong a word and not what I think J.K. Rowling was going for anyway) – I did, and after a few days had passed I was able to appreciate it much more.  But do not read this book on my recommendation; read it if and only if you think the story sounds good.

Wolf Hall, by Hilary Mantel (Wolf Hall #1) – I’d been waiting for months to get Wolf Hall from the library, and I was super pumped when my turn finally came… and WOW, did it ever live up to my expectations.  The novel focuses on Thomas Cromwell as he walks the political tightrope of attempting to help Henry VIII divorce Katherine of Aragon.  The story is gripping and the writing is sublime.  Now I am more excited than I can possibly convey to read the sequel, Bring Up The Bodies (but it’ll be awhile, since that one has a long waiting list too).  Highly recommend this Man Booker Prize winner.

The Good Girls Revolt: How the Women of Newsweek Sued Their Bosses and Changed the Workplace, by Lynn Povich – I heard about this new nonfiction book on NPR and was immediately intrigued.  My brother is a journalist and I’m an employment lawyer – how could I not want to read this?  The Good Girls Revolt ended up being an interesting account of the Newsweek sex discrimination complaint by one of the women who actually lived it, but what I found more intriguing was the history of sexism in magazine journalism that Povich references.  Because Povich was one of the “plaintiffs” in the case, not the attorney, she didn’t focus much on the actual legal arguments (which are different from the women’s grievances), so I was left a little bit wanting.  But Povich did paint a compelling portrait of the sexist climate in the journalism field in the 1960s and 70s, and I think that most readers would find that more interesting anyway.  (I’m speculating that most readers who pick up The Good Girls Revolt won’t be attorneys who dedicate a good chunk of their practice to defending discrimination claims.)

I was actually a bit surprised that I read as much as I did this month, since I now have a baby in the house.  But Peanut is still in the stage where she sleeps a LOT.  I enjoyed every reading experience this month – yes, even The Casual Vacancy in retrospect.  But I think Wolf Hall was the highlight – compelling story and gorgeous writing, with the promise of more good reading ahead, since it’s the first in a trilogy.  I’d never read any Hilary Mantel before and I will definitely be seeking out more of her work, and soon.  Looking ahead to November, I have more fun books on the horizon, which I hope to squeeze in sometime between Peanut care and Thanksgiving festivities.  Onward!

Peanut: Two Months


Hey guys, whattup!  Peanut baby in the house!

Wow – we hit not one, but two milestones recently – Peanut turned two months old and she passed her due date.  She’s officially supposed to be here now – woohoo!

The best day of Peanut’s second month was October 11, 2012 – Homecoming Day!  We had some indication a few days prior that discharge was in the offing, so we were prepared with a stocked nursery and a packed diaper bag.  Still, it was a shock how quickly the discharge happened, once the day dawned.  From the doctor’s final once-over to signing the discharge papers and walking out of the hospital, it was about 90 minutes.  Even with all the congratulations and goodbye waves and we’ll-miss-yous and come-back-for-NICU-reunions, hubby and I still felt like we were getting away with something when we carried Peanut out the doors!  And it was eerily quiet once we got her home – we weren’t used to hanging with Peanut without the sound of monitors beeping.  But we settled in quickly and we like this new, wireless home model baby even better than the fully wired hospital model.

Photo: Emily takes her first walk in the great outdoors!

Since bringing Peanut home, we’ve enjoyed several walks both around our neighborhood and through Old Town Alexandria.  After all those weeks of dreaming about pushing Peanut in her stroller (I had to have something to look forward to during those long NICU days), I’m still giddy with excitement every time we get the BOB out.  I think Peanut enjoys the walks, too.  She doesn’t seem to mind her carseat (there are tears when we put her in, but as soon as she starts moving, she’s fine) and we love showing her off to the neighbors.  We’ve had two pediatrician appointments since coming home, and they’re thrilled with her so far.

We’ve also done a few baths at home.  Peanut always finds a way to make those exciting.  I’m going to leave it at that, and let you use your imaginations.

Peanut at two months old…

Adjusted Age: 1 day
Length:
 18 3/4 inches
Weight: 4 lbs, 12 oz (as of last pediatrician appointment)
Milestones: holds up head briefly during tummy time; grips a finger (and Nana’s necklace, Mommy’s hair…); focuses on a face (especially likes Daddy’s eyebrows and hairline, and Mommy’s glasses) or on her baby art cards
Likes: swaying back and forth in Mommy’s arms; snuggling and watching Mythbusters with Daddy; walks through the neighborhood
Dislikes: baths (still!); diaper changes (still!); bibs
Quirks: drama queen (acts like every bottle she gets is the first after a long famine); does a great duck face; clasps her hands together while eating her bottle as if to say “This is so delicious!”; tucks her right hand up under her chin

As for me… I’m basically recovered from the having-a-baby part of motherhood – physically, that is.  The emotional part of it, especially the drama of having a baby at 31 weeks, is still interesting.  (I’m getting to the point where I think I might write a blog post reflecting on the whole experience, maybe in a few more months.)  Now I’m thinking about getting back my pre-baby body and starting to try to incorporate more activity into my days and to focus on eating more fresh, whole foods and fewer convenience foods.  Hubby is encouraging me to take one afternoon “off” each week to go to yoga and recharge my batteries (isn’t he the sweetest?), so I’ve started to give myself “Sunday afternoons for Mom” while Peanut bonds with her Daddy at home.  And I’m really getting excited for the upcoming holiday season now that I’ve got my baby home and I’m starting to get a handle on this whole motherhood thing.

Month three will include Peanut’s first major holiday (Halloween!) and Mommy has some fun treats planned (no tricks though).  We’re looking forward to our first full month at home as a family of three.

Peanut’s Picks: BLUEBERRIES FOR SAL

Hiya, bloggies!  Peanut here!  Life at home is great.  I have Mommy and Daddy completely wrapped around my little finger – it didn’t take long.  Basically, I get whatever I want.  All I have to say is “Nyaaaaaaaaahhhhhhh!” and they come running to feed me and change me from one cute outfit into another and rock me until I fall back asleep.  It’s a good system we have going on, if I do say so myself.  One of my favorite things is when Mommy and I sit together in the rocking chair in my room and Mommy reads to me.  We look at all kinds of books together – books with lots of pictures, books with cardboard pages, and even some big kid books with lots and lots and LOTS of words.  Mommy said I could use her blog to tell you about some of my favorite books, since I’m such a big girl now.  (Please note: I can neither confirm nor deny the rumors that this post was ghostwritten by Mommy.)

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For my first post, I’d like to discuss Blueberries for Sal, by Robert McCloskey.  Mommy was super excited to read this book with me, because it was one of her favorite books when she was very, very small (but not as small as me).  Some pretty scary stuff happens in this book.  Little Sal and her mother go out to pick blueberries so that Sal’s mama can preserve them for the winter.  But Sal is more interested in eating the blueberries (obviously) than in picking them and saving them.  Sal’s mama yells at Sal for taking blueberries out of her bucket and then Sal gets tired of being dragged all over the place, so she sits down and eats the blueberries.  Then she goes looking for her mama, but instead she finds herself following a mama bear!  And the mama bear’s little cub finds himself following Sal’s mama!  YIKES!

I’m not going to spoil the ending for you.  You’re just going to have to read it for yourself.  (Or get my mom to read it to you.  She likes reading out loud.)

But I do want to talk about the character of Sal.  I think she gets an unfairly bad rap here.  First of all, all that Sal wants to do is eat blueberries!  Who can blame her for that?  (I love blueberries.  Actually, I love all fruit.  I know what you’re thinking: how can a baby love fruit?  But you wouldn’t question me if you knew how much fruit I made Mommy eat when I was baking.  I think Daddy actually cried over the grocery bills once or twice.)  In fact, if you ask me, Sal has the right idea.  She just wants to eat the blueberries straight off the bush, when they’re freshest and yummiest.  It’s Sal’s mother who wants to take them home and mix them with sugar and turn them into jam.  (Well… hmmmm… I might be willing to concede that both sides have valid points here.)

But anyway, Blueberries for Sal is a great book with important lessons for mommies and daddies.  These are the lessons I take from the book:

1. Blueberries for everyone!
2. Jam too!
3. Don’t yell at your kids when they just want to eat fresh blueberries.  You could find yourself being stalked by a bear.

Stay tuned for more of my book reviews and thoughts on these important issues!

xoxo,
Peanut

P.S. Mommy says I should tell you where to get the book if you want.  You can buy it online here!  Also, Mommy says I should tell you that this is not an affiliate link.  I don’t know what that means, but I do know this: blueberries for everyone!

Shelf Study

Like many book lovers, I look forward to getting my Shelf Awareness for Readers newsletter every Tuesday and Friday.  (In fact, when I’m not on maternity leave, Tuesdays are my least favorite day of the week – all that Monday motivation is spent but Friday is oh-so-far away – and my Shelf Awareness email is sometimes the only thing that gets me through those days.)  I always read the introduction, sometimes read the author features, and skim the reviews for books that I think sound particularly intriguing.  But my favorite thing about the Shelf Awareness newsletter is when it links to bookish articles and features elsewhere on the web.  Last Tuesday’s Shelf did just that, pointing readers to a feature in which Geraldine Brooks (who wrote the Pulitzer Prize-winning March, which I loved) describes the whimsical way in which she organizes her bookshelves: alphabetical by author, but within that system she pays attention to how the authors would get along at a dinner party.  Heh!

I am not, I’m sorry to say, quite that whimsical.  In my kitchen, I have things sorted on a loose system of how-much-do-I-like-this, which drives hubby crazy and befuddles friends and family members who try to cook in my house.  But on my bookshelves, I’m pretty straightforward: I organize my books by genre and within genre, roughly by size.  I have a few idiosyncracies; for instance, within my classics collection I have a shelf and a half of books published by Barnes & Noble, and those are pretty much sorted geographically (English, Russian, American, and so on and so forth), but also by color (the older cream covers on the left, newer black colors on the right).  It’s all about what my eye finds appealing, within a system that generally makes sense.

Here’s how I sort my shelves:

Left Shelf

Top: mystery novels (Agatha Christie and Dorothy L. Sayers) on the left, children’s and young adult on the right.
Second from top: more children’s books
Third from top: literary fiction
Third from bottom: literary fiction
Second from bottom: classics, mostly trade paperback (some small hardcovers)
Bottom: classics, mostly trade paperback (some small hardcovers)

Middle Shelf

Top: Sentimental (pic of my grandparents, unity candle from my wedding, Jane Austen book hubby gave me when we were dating)
Second from top: Complete Charles Dickens (handed down from my grandmother)
Third from top: Complete Charles Dickens (handed down from my grandmother)
Third from bottom: Other leatherbound classics and nice hardcover classics
Second from bottom: Trade collection hardbound classics
Bottom: Barnes & Noble hardbound classics

Right Shelf

Top: Biographies and more literary fiction
Second from top: More literary fiction
Third from top: Comedy (David Sedaris, P.G. Wodehouse, my beloved Jon Stewart) and my bookmark collection
Third from bottom: Travel books (Rick Steves and Rough Guides as well as travel memoirs)
Second from bottom: Cookbooks
Bottom: Knitting

When I write it all out like that, it seems kind of weird.  But I swear it makes sense in my head and appeals to my eye, and since I’m generally the only one who goes looking for books on these shelves (hubby has his own shelves, in his den) I’m cool with it.  What about you – how do you organize your bookshelves?

Bookish Birthday Treats

So.  Last Saturday was my birthday, and it was great.  I got the one present I wanted more than anything else – the chance to snuggle at home as a family of three, because Peanut came home from the hospital in time!  But because I’m a lucky lady all around, I got other treats too, some of which were delightfully bookish.

Hubby got me the last two Betsy-Tacy volumes I didn’t already own (Heaven to Betsy/Betsy in Spite of Herself and Betsy and the Great World/Betsy’s Wedding) by Maud Hart Lovelace.  (I first learned of the series from Katie, and I don’t know how I missed it all these years!)  He also got me a newly-published edition of The Story Girl, by L.M. Montgomery.  (I loved it when I was a little girl, but my copy has been lost for years.  This version is published by Forgotten Books, who print facsimiles of old versions of little-known classics.  They just put The Story Girl out this year.  Lucky me!)  And he also got me a set of Jane Austen bookmarks from the Castle on the Hill Etsy store.  Oh, and if I wasn’t already spoiled enough, my in-laws sent along City of Fortune, a history of Venice by Roger Crowley, which looks fascinating.  I’m a lucky bookworm!

(In addition to my bookish gifts, I was further spoiled – hubby also got me earrings, my parents bought me a watch, my in-laws had several meals delivered from a catering service, and my sister-in-law got me a gift card to a local yoga studio.  So while I’m busy reading, I’ll also be wearing pretty things, eating well, and taking time for myself.  Those are some good birthday reminders for a new mama!)

Homecoming Day

Guess who’s home?!

That’s right, friends, we’ve got ourselves a baby in the house!  Peanut came home from the hospital on Thursday, October 11th, 2012, after spending 50 days, 20 hours and 29 minutes in the NICU (but who’s counting?).  She celebrated by partying (a.k.a. screaming) all night the first night she was home, but since then she’s settled into life at home and so have we.  Hubby and I have worked out a schedule that allows each of us to string together several hours of sleep every night, whether Peanut helps us out or not (but so far, knock wood, she seems to be a good sleeper – that first night notwithstanding).  We’ll see if we can make that work over the long haul, but so far, so good.  Peanut has gone for her first walk (to the playground and back), has made her first trip to the pediatrician, has had her first bath at home, and has been visited by one set of grandparents.  As for hubby and myself, we’re tired, but not exhausted.  (And it’s not adrenaline; we spent our new-parent adrenaline rush on long days in the NICU.  So far at home, we’ve just been lucky.)  We’re spending our days singing and reading to Peanut, feeding her bottles, laughing at her silly faces, and laying around doing tummy time.

Life is good.

Your Brain on Books

When hubby and I commute together (either to and from work, or for the past seven weeks, to and from the NICU), we always have NPR on.  Hubby’s a fan, and I will tune in now and again when there’s a story that causes my ears to perk up.  Usually, though, I have my nose buried deep in a book and I don’t hear a word of the radio programs, prompting many conversations that go like this:

Hubby makes a joke or comment that’s related to the radio story that’s playing.  Thirty seconds to a minute of silence go by.  I say: “Huh?  What?  I’m sorry; I wasn’t paying attention.”

Thing is, when I’m into a book – I mean, really into it – I actually don’t hear what’s going on around me.  Seriously, World War III could break out right in front of me and I’d be oblivious.  I call it “reading-induced deafness.”  Then on one recent trip to the NICU, a story came on that actually made me put down my book, sit up and take notice: a woman was talking about getting so absorbed in her reading that “I really think the house could possibly burn down around me and I wouldn’t notice.”  Well hello there, soulmate.

The speaker was one Natalie Phillips, a professor of 18th- and 19th-century literature who came up with an idea to study the theme of distractability in Jane Austen’s novels.  This project snowballed into a study of the neurological effects of “close reading” (similar to “deep attention reading” that I’ve talked about before) as opposed to “browsing” (described as the type of reading you’d do while standing and flipping through a selection in a bookstore).  I’ll let you read the details of the story for yourself, but it basically boils down to this: the subjects showed greater activity, over a range of areas of the brain, when doing the “close reading” than they did when “browsing.”  And my favorite part:

Phillips found that close reading activated unexpected areas: parts of the brain that are involved in movement and touch. It was as though readers were physically placing themselves within the story as they analyzed it.

How cool!  Do you ever feel like you know the characters in your favorite books?  Or like you’ve been there and experienced the story with them?  Felt the cold winds whipping along the moors in Wuthering Heights or Jane Eyre, for example, or the soft warm sunshine along Lover’s Lane in Anne of Green Gables, for example?  Well, maybe – and the story was careful to stress that the results are preliminary – it’s because you actually have been there, because your mind is even more adept at creating the place and experiencing the sensations of a book than we ever realized.  I love that!  Books are so much more than just words on a page – they’re friends, experiences.  (Man, how I wish I could see a map of the brain all lit up while a reader is deep into a book.  Would that not be the coolest?)

I’ve always thought it was a bit of a personal character flaw quirk of mine that I fail to pay attention to my surroundings when I’m really into something I’m reading.  But apparently I’m not alone (yay) and I’m not checked out of reality or incredibly self-involved (double yay) – I’m in the midst of some hardcore brain calisthenics!  Professor Natalie Phillips, you have made my day.  Now, could you please call my mother and tell her that I’m actually not an airhead?  kthanksbye.

Read the article for yourself, and then tell me – are you one of those people who gets so absorbed in a book that you could sit in a burning house and not notice?

31 Before 32

On Saturday, I turned 31.  Eeks!  Actually, it’s fine.  This birthday definitely did not provoke the existential crisis that turning 30 did.  (Which would have been much worse, had I not distracted myself with a trip to England.)  I had a great time being 30, since I spent about two-thirds of the year enjoying the world’s easiest pregnancy, before it got really dramatic.  And I finished off year 30 by spending seven weeks with the cutest baby ever born, in my humble opinion.  So, yeah, 30 was good.

I want to make 31 good too, but I have absolutely no plans to get pregnant this year, so I had to think of a different way to have a great year.  I decided to take a leaf out of my penpal Katie‘s book and make a list of 31 things I want to do before I turn 32.  Here it is:

1. Spend lots of time snuggling and loving Peanut while she’s still tiny.  Most important thing on my list!
2. Get into the habit of better skin care.
3. Read the Lord of the Rings trilogy (long overdue).
4. Run the GW Parkway Classic 2013.
5. Take plenty of family hikes with hubby and the little miss.
6. Overcome my fear of baking bread.
7. See Book of Mormon at the Kennedy Center, summer 2013.
8. Give Peanut a magical first Christmas!  (I can’t wait to be Santa.)
9. Finish reading Miss Read’s Fairacre series.
10. Buy myself a Longchamp bag and a new wallet.
11. Plant a successful herb garden.
12. Read Winnie-the-Pooh to Peanut.
13. Take up Zumba.
14. Knit a sweater for Peanut and a hat for myself.
15. Toss or donate the clothes that I don’t like but that are still hanging in my closet.
16. Attend Potomac Paddle 2013.  (I keep meaning to go, but it never works out.  This year!)
17. Reconnect with an old friend.
18. Have a playdate with NICU mom friends.
19. Paint my bedroom purple.
20. Break in and wear my silver ballet flats.
21. Re-read the Anne of Green Gables series.
22. Climb Old Rag.  (This one: maybe not so realistic.  I’d need to train a lot and find a babysitter.)
23. Knit another pair of socks.
24. Buy a pair of fabulous shoes at a great price.
25. Bake a pumpkin spice cake.
26. Take Peanut to the beach.
27. Get to know the women in my neighborhood better.
28. Get back into a regular yoga practice.
29. Start a baby box for Peanut.
30. Create a frame wall in my foyer.
31. Lots and lots and lots of family time with hubby and Peanut!