
I almost didn’t write this post. If you’ve been reading for awhile, you’ve probably already noticed the absence of meat around here. You may remember me mentioning the lack of healthy vegetarian options on my business trip, or perhaps you spotted a meat-dish makeover. You’ve likely put two and two together. After all, you’re smart. And that was my intention – to quietly go about eating my veggies and sharing them with you. But I realized that I owe you more than that. I owe it to you, you who check in here to see what’s new in Casa Messy, to share all of my culinary journeys with you.
For the past six months, I’ve been eating a completely vegetarian diet.
I’ve been contemplating this change for awhile. I first started thinking about it last spring, and mused here about my motivations. Then I started the transition, very slowly, over the summer. I read a LOT of information about eating a healthy vegetarian diet. I found some books and blogs that were extremely helpful to me. I cruised the web for vegetarian and vegan recipes. I bought new cookbooks. I thought about what this lifestyle change would mean for me and for hubby. And while I did all that, I gradually reduced my meat intake. As you know, I have been abstaining from beef and pork since I was 17. I no longer miss or crave them, and haven’t for years. This summer I continued to eat fish occasionally but almost completely eliminated poultry. In fact, I only ate poultry twice, I think, all summer. It felt fine, natural, and I didn’t really miss the poultry. That was when I started to think, “Wow, I could really do this.”
Then I went to France. Obviously, France is not exactly a vegetarian paradise. I didn’t want to feel like I had missed out on any part of the experience so soon in my journey, and I wasn’t “official” yet, so I gave myself permission to enjoy poultry and seafood as much as I wanted while there. And I did. When I came home, I felt satisfied. I felt like I had eaten my fill and didn’t need anymore. I “declared myself” vegetarian on October 12, the day before my birthday, although in reality I hadn’t eaten meat (including seafood) since late September. Oh, and if you’re wondering how my birthday was… it was fabulous. Hubby took me to a wonderful French restaurant near our home and I had a delicious, flavorful mushroom dish and a magnificent chocolate tart.
Now, six months in, I feel like I am adapting to my new lifestyle and ready to talk to you all about it. Because I do want to talk to you. There is so, so much I want to share. I’ll start by answering some questions that I’ve gotten, and some I haven’t gotten.
What the heck happened on October 12?
Like I said, I had already been eating a fully vegetarian diet for about three weeks. But I didn’t want to commit, didn’t want to put a label on what I was doing. On October 12, I remember it was a nice day outside – that beautiful DC Indian summer was still going on. Blue sky, warm breeze. So I decided to go for a walk after work, because hubby had a late night. As I cruised around my neighborhood, I stopped in a bookstore and meandered over to the food and nutrition section (obviously). I was flipping through a book on vegetarian diets and happened to stop on a page with quotes describing the horrors of factory farms and slaughterhouses. Now, before you say anything, no, I haven’t been living under a rock. I knew what happened on factory farms. In this day and age, who doesn’t? But seeing the words printed in stark black on the page, quotes from people who had actually carried out some astonishing atrocities, brought it home for me like nothing else ever had. I stood in Books-A-Million literally feeling my heart drop to my toes, and I realized that I simply couldn’t be part of that system anymore. I didn’t have it in me to cast one more vote for that system. Yes, I was buying organic meat from Whole Foods, or from the farmers market… but I realized that wasn’t enough. Every dollar I spent on meat was a dollar that said, “I support this, I’m willing to be part of the demand for meat that has created things as they are.” And I no longer felt comfortable with that.
How do I feel now?
I feel fantastic! I have more energy than ever before. I feel light and fresh. My skin is clear and my hair is actually healthier than it used to be. I am confident that I am doing the right thing for my health and for the environment. It’s liberating.
What about the hubs?
The hubs is extremely supportive. He understood my reasons for wanting to give this lifestyle another try and assured me that he was totally on board. He hasn’t gone veg himself, which of course is his choice – he’s a grown-up. However, he packs himself veggie lunches and he eats the same meals that I eat at home. He will occasionally buy himself beef to make burgers on our new grill, and he usually (but not always) orders meat when we eat out. We’re both very happy with the balance we’ve struck.
What kind of reactions am I getting?
I’ll be honest – the reactions I’ve gotten from friends and family have been mixed, which is to be expected. Still, the vast majority have been very positive. I think most people understand that I’m an adult who has done my homework, and I can make my own decisions. Some people in particular have been awesome. Special shout-outs go to hubby’s stepmom, who bought me a vegan cookbook for my birthday and made sure that there was a tasty veg entree at Thanksgiving for me and my vegan sister-in-law, and also to my other sister-in-law, who is gradually eating more veg herself! I’m sure it helps that I try not to be preachy – I think this blog post is the most I’ve proselytized, and I really am not trying to push anything on you all, just telling you what my experiences have been. So while I’ve had some difficult moments, people have generally been pretty darn amazing.
Am I getting all the nutrition I need?
Yes, Mom. Haha! No, really, I promise I have done tons of research on this. I have made a concerted effort to eat protein with most, if not all, meals, and as a result I am actually getting more protein than I did when eating fish and poultry. (I track my intake in an online nutrition tracker.) I also take a multivitamin and a calcium supplement. So I’m covered. Actually, making sure that my nutrition is on point has been a fun challenge. I’ve been exploring vegetarian protein sources (beans and tempeh are my faves, but I’m also loving lentils, tofu and seitan and the occasional egg) and filling my plate with tons of colorful veggies to get an array of nutrients. I’ve been paying so much attention that I really believe my diet is healthier now. I’ve also lost my taste for most processed junk as I’ve been eating more whole foods.
Any plans to go vegan?
Not at this time. I’m eating a lot of vegan meals, just coincidentally (because not every vegetarian meal includes cheese). I do try to limit dairy because I have concerns about the healthfulness of dairy, but I am eating nonfat Greek yogurt for protein and really good cheeses. I’m not going to waste my “dairy budget” on junky cheese for the most part, but I’m okay with some dairy coming in as a special treat from time to time. It’s possible that could change, but right now I’m happy with the way things are.
What about seafood?
I’ll be honest, this is the hardest for me. I haven’t had a single craving for poultry since giving it up – not even on Thanksgiving – but seafood, especially shellfish, was hard for me. I really like sushi, smoked salmon, and tuna tartare. I absolutely love mussels, clams and especially lobster. I really didn’t think I would have trouble with those, since I hardly ever got them even when I was eating seafood – they were a very special treat for me, particularly lobster. It was hard for me to imagine that I would miss something I only got once a year, if that. But I do. I do miss lobster. So, would I eat seafood? Truthfully, I’m not sure. Sushi is not a problem for me because I can get the flavors through vegetarian sushi, and creamy avocado is a great stand-in for fish (since it’s the texture I love in sushi, more than the taste of the fish). But the other stuff, yeah, I won’t lie, I miss it. And while I don’t intend to eat it, I’m not going to foreclose the possibility that I would have a small amount on a very special occasion. For example, my brother lives on an island and snorkels for clams. If he offered me clams that he had snorkeled for, would I say no? I haven’t had to experience that situation yet, so I don’t know for sure what I would do. But if I’m being truthful with myself, I think that right now at least, for me it would feel more toxic to refuse something so special my brother was offering – clams that he had gathered and prepared with his own hands – than to just eat a couple of them. That would be a really huge deal for me, and while I can’t think of another occasion where I really believe I would try seafood right now, I have to be honest and say that in that situation (which will probably happen, but only a couple of times), I would eat a couple of clams. Does that make me a bad vegetarian? I don’t think it does. I can be committed to my lifestyle and allow myself one or two exceptions because I love my brother more. Again, you know I hate labels. I’m not trying to be perfect here, or to fit into anyone’s definition other than my own. I’m just doing the best I can every day.
What does this mean for the blog?
Well, there won’t really be many changes. You know I’m a baker at heart. There will still be lots of baked goods, I promise. Some may be vegan! I’ve discovered that I looooove vegan baked goods (the cupcakes seem to have more chew, which I like, and vegan “buttercream” is much less greasy than the original). So I’ll experiment there and share the good stuff. And obviously the main dishes and salads I’ll be posting will be vegetarian or vegan. However, I am going to leave the seafood and poultry recipes up on the blog, since I know some of you may want to try them. Give the tuna and avocado salad a whirl – just because I’m not eating it doesn’t mean you can’t!
Most important question… how’s the food?
Dudes. Dudes. The food… the food is great. You don’t have to eat animals to eat well. For the past six months, I’ve explored different cuisines, flipped through new cookbooks, read vegetarian blogs, and really expanded my cooking horizons. I’ve shared a couple of those discoveries with all of you, and rest assured, there are many more to come. Now that I am more confident in my vegetarian lifestyle, I’m cooking up a storm. I haven’t had this much fun in the kitchen since I was first married and trying out my shiny new wedding cookware! And for those who worry that vegetarianism is limiting, trust me, it’s not. I’ve eaten more variety in the past six months than I ever did while eating meat. I used to have a few standby recipes that I rotated, trying new things periodically for the blog. But now I’m exploring new flavorings. Tamari! Have you had tamari? Oh it’s fantastic! I’m having a wonderful time experimenting. Some of my dishes have been great; others have been flops. But it’s been an awesome ride. And I have some great recipes to share with y’all in the coming weeks. Stay tuned!
The past six months have been an amazing ride. I’m more committed to vegetarianism than ever and looking forward to sharing this journey with my friends through this blog!