Peanut’s Picks: HAROLD AND THE PURPLE CRAYON

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Hi, adults!  That’s right, it’s me!  I’m back!  First of all, you might notice that I have a different picture.  Even though my mom says that my last picture was beautiful too and if anyone ever tells me otherwise, I should wet burp on them.  You have been warned, Nana.

Harold and the Purple Crayon by Crockett…

Here is a book that Santa brought me.  It is about a boy, Harold, who only has one crayon because his mom took all of his other crayons away and put them on a high shelf or something or maybe his Auntie Em broke them, I don’t know.  So Harold takes his one measly crayon and he draws himself a whole big purple adventure.  There is a dragon and a boat and a moose and some pies and a city and a bunch of other stuff, only it’s all purple.  (My mom likes purple, but I’m partial to pink.)  And then he realizes that he is lost in his purple adventure and he has to try to draw himself home.  I won’t tell you how it turns out, except that it’s a good thing Harold’s home is purple too.  My room is yellow, so a purple crayon wouldn’t do me much good, now would it?

My mom says that this book is supposed to encourage children to be creative and use their imaginations.  But I think this book is supposed to encourage parents to give their children ALL THE CRAYONS.  Not just one.  Hear that, Mommy?  ALL THE CRAYONS.  Or if not, can I at least have pink?

Lesson for parents: You want creativity?  Give me ALL THE CRAYONS.  Your bedroom walls could use some flair.

Mom says you can encourage creativity by buying Harold and the Purple Crayon here, or go to your local bookstore.  Whatever blows your purple hair back.

Scholastic’s 2012 Kids and Family Reading Report is Here!

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Last week, Scholastic released its 2012 Kids and Family Reading Report, and it’s chock-a-block full of interesting information.  This is the fourth time Scholastic has prepared the report, which comes out every two years, and it’s the first time that it was at all on my radar screen.  I immediately downloaded the report and read the entire thing (not hard to do; it’s a lot of graphics).  As a new mom myself, I was very interested to read what Scholastic (a company I remember fondly from my school years) had to say about today’s kids and their reading behaviors.  Much of the report focuses on e-books, which promise to become more prevalent each year, and most of the findings were not particularly earth-shattering, at least not to me.  My thoughts:

On Parenting a Reader

Even before Peanut was born, I was thinking about how I’d go about bringing her up to be (I hope) an avid reader.  I posted here about my plans to be a Reading Mom, and later told you about Growing a Reader from Birth, a fascinating book I read back in November.  I was not at all surprised to find that a large part of Scholastic’s study focused on how parents can help to bring up little readers.

Unsurprisingly, of the parents that Scholastic polled, almost half (49%) believed that their children did not spend enough time reading books for fun.  Meanwhile, many parents believed their children spend too much time in front of screens – watching TV, playing video games, surfing the internet and Facebook – and texting on their smartphones.  As kids become more technologically adept, and have more choices for their screen time, I expect to see the numbers rise – more and more parents will be of the opinion that their kids spend too much time in front of screens, and not enough time reading.  (One of my few criticisms of the report was that while it looked at kids’ time spent reading and doing sedentary activities in front of screens, it didn’t address kids’ time spent playing outdoors or participating in sports.  I understand the report can’t address everything, but I’d like to have seen physical activity included, since I think that it’s very important for kids to be active outside.  I would have loved to see what parents thought about their kids’ time spent being active; it didn’t surprise me at all that most parents felt their kids spent too much time in front of screens and not enough time reading, but what were parents’ views on, say, soccer?  If the study wanted to look at reading time in comparison to time spent doing other activities, I felt that omitting outdoor activity left a big hole.)

That said, there are things that parents can do to encourage reading, and they start very early – from birth, in fact.  The study found that the three most effective things that a parent can do to encourage kids to read are to (1) set a good example by reading frequently yourself; (2) provide a home environment with an abundance of books; and (3) spend lots of time reading to your children.  I thought Scholastic’s finding here was fascinating, because it proves that you don’t need lots of money to grow a reader.  Any parent, regardless of how much money the family makes, can encourage their child to read: time spent reading with your child is more effective than money laid out.  Books purchased on the cheap from library sales (or even borrowed from the library – FREE!), thrift shops or bargain sales won’t set you back much, but they’re worth their weight in gold when it comes to encouraging kids to read.  And time spent cuddling with your kids and reading stories together costs nada, but will pay out huge dividends when it comes to growing a reader – and can you think of a more precious memory?  Along with this encouraging news goes the – frankly, kind of surprising – finding that there’s absolutely no correlation between household income and frequency of reading among kids.  Scholastic collected information about family income of frequent readers and infrequent readers and there was almost no difference at all – the median was $71,000 for frequent readers and $70,000 for infrequent readers, a negligible difference.  It debunks the conventional wisdom that kids from high-income families read more than kids from low-income or middle-income families.  (And I think, by extension, it shows that kids from low-income families aren’t doomed to struggle academically.  Caring teachers and parents who make the time to read with their kids and use the resources at their disposal to encourage reading mean far more than paychecks.  Isn’t that awesome?)

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On E-Books

Jonathan Franzen, deal with this: e-books are here to stay.  Much of Scholastic’s study was devoted to questions about kids and e-books, and that makes perfect sense, since they’re the new wave of reading.  I know there are plenty of paper devotees and book purists, and that’s great and all, but the fact remains that kids are attracted to e-books, now more than ever.  Scholastic found that the numbers of kids reading e-books on various devices (including dedicated e-readers like Kindles or Nooks, desktop computers, tablets such as the iPad, or smartphones) has increased across the spectrum since 2010.  The percentage of kids who have read an e-book has almost doubled in the last two years, and among kids who read e-books, 20% say they now read more for fun (especially boys).  Most e-book reading happens at home, but more schools are offering the opportunity to their students, and half of kids ages 9-17, who have read at least one e-book, say they would read more for fun if they had more access to e-books.

There are plenty of reasons for this, according to Scholastic.  For one, e-readers help kids who lack self-confidence, perhaps because they’re slower readers than their peers, who might not want to tote around a below-grade level book that their friends can see (and mock).  Many kids said that part of the lure of e-readers is that their friends can’t see what they’re reading.  (This holds true for moms, too.  I know there are plenty of ladies out there who claim to be reading Anna Karenina but are really reading Fifty Shades of Grey.  C’mon ladies, Count Vronsky isn’t making you blush like that.)  I think there’s another reason too, one that Scholastic didn’t explore much (other than vague allusions) – kids like technology, they like the new hot thing, and e-readers and devices are cool and of-the-moment.  My kid is five months old, so her interest in my Nook doesn’t extend beyond wanting to put it in her mouth, as she wants to put everything in her mouth.  But when she is old enough to read to herself, I’ll let her read in any format she wants, and I might even get her an e-reader of her very own when she’s reading longer books.

Still, print books aren’t going anywhere.  Although kids are fascinated by e-readers, they still love to turn pages.  80% of frequent readers (who have read an e-book) say they still primarily read print books for fun.  And parents of younger children prefer print to e-books by a large margin.  Makes sense to me; Peanut’s books wouldn’t look nearly as good on my Nook as they do in print.

I think there are several lessons here.  First, we all need to make peace with e-books (if we haven’t already; I personally love my Nook for its convenience, especially when traveling, and wouldn’t dream of getting rid of it, although I still primarily read print books too).  They’re here and they’re not going away.  Second, if e-books will encourage kids to read, we should get them e-books.  You don’t have to have boatloads of disposable income to make e-books available to your children.  Many classics are in the public domain and available to download for free, and you can read them on a desktop computer, which many families own even if they can’t afford a fleet of other devices.  Again, I think Scholastic’s report is wonderfully encouraging in that it proves, over and over again, that there are plenty of low-cost ways to encourage reading, and you don’t have to be rich to raise a reader.

On Boys and Girls and Books, Oh My!

It’s been the conventional wisdom since time immemorial that girls read for fun more than boys do.  I have lots of thoughts about why this might be.  For one thing, I think that as a society, collectively, we haven’t done the best job of encouraging boys to be avid readers.  There are more good choices for girls’ reading material, and many of the children’s classics – like The Secret Garden, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, Anne of Green Gables, Betsy-Tacy, and A Little Princess to name just a few – seem to be geared towards girls.  (That’s not to say boys can’t read those books too, and maybe there are boys that do, but I don’t believe as many boys are attracted to them.)  Of course, there are classics that appeal to boys, too – like The Wind in the Willows, Frog and Toad, The Hardy Boys, but I think the difference is that those books appeal to both boys and girls, where the girls’ classics really appeal only to girls, with few exceptions.  And then there’s the fact that little boys have, for generations, been encouraged to be rough-and-tumble, and reading has been considered somewhat less than manly, and as a result I believe that society has missed many opportunities to instill a love of reading in both sexes.  (It’s not impossible – as I mentioned in my post Are readers born or made?, my brother was not an avid reader – although he always loved to be read to – until my mom found him a series of young adult books set in the “Star Wars” universe, which he loved, and now today he reads more than any other guy I know.)

However, according to Scholastic, boys are catching up to girls in the love-of-reading department.  The number of boys reporting that they consider it important to read for fun, and that they enjoy and spend a lot of time reading for fun, has increased slightly since 2010.  Yay!  But… there’s bad news too.  The number of girls reporting they consider it important to read for fun, and that they enjoy and spend a lot of time reading for fun, has decreased slightly since 2010.  No!  It’s true.  Girls are leveling or dropping off in their enjoyment and pursuit of reading (although they still read for fun at higher numbers, and more frequently, than boys).  What this finding says to me, as a mom of a girl, is that we can’t afford to neglect girls’ reading and assume that they’ll come to reading naturally; girls need to be encouraged too.  Parents and educators often focus on the question “how do we get the boys to read?” because girls, as a group, often seem to have their reading habits ingrained without much effort from the adults.  But we can’t ignore the girls!  I think it’s a mistake to assume that girls will love reading just because they’re girls, and I will put just as much effort into encouraging Peanut to read as I would have if she happened to be a boy.

The good news for adolescents is that many of most popular the young adult books on the market seem to appeal to boys and girls equally.  (Twilight is the exception.)  Scholastic polled kids on the last book they read for fun, and the most popular responses were books that appealed to both boys and girls.  The Diary of a Wimpy Kid series won the 9-11 set (and came in a close second to Junie B. Jones among 6-8s), and the Harry Potter series and the Hunger Games trilogy had the 12-17 market cornered.  I don’t know if there are more choices now that both boys and girls can enjoy equally, or if they are just getting more press, but either way, I like it.

These are just my random thoughts from the 2012 Kids and Family Reading Report.  There’s a lot more food for thought in there!  Download it and see for yourself – and if you do, I’d love to hear your impressions.

Have you read the 2012 KFRR?  What did you think?  Parents, do you agree or disagree with the report’s conclusions?

Peanut: Five Months

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Oh, yes, I’m a perfect angel.

This month has been huge. So much growth, so much change. If there’s one phrase I’ve uttered to Peanut more than anything else this month, it’s “You’re such a big girl!” This was the month that I felt Peanut went from being a newborn to being an honest-to-goodness baby.  She smiles spontaneously.  She giggles.  She babbles.  She plays with toys – and her hands.  It’s like she’s growing up right before my eyes.  Too weird.

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Give me your secrets, zebra, or I will take your rings.

I have mixed feelings about this.  On the one hand, I’m so proud that my little girl is making such huge developmental strides.  Every time she does something new, I cheer (outwardly and inwardly).  I congratulate her and tell her how great she is.  Every milestone is extra special to me, after the drudgery of days spent in the NICU.  But they’re also a little bit bittersweet, because… well… like I said, she’s growing up before my eyes.  When she was under three pounds, I didn’t know what the next day would look like – and that was awful.  But now I can picture her as a toddler, a preschooler, a kindergartener.  The days are going by so fast and I just want time to sloooooooooow down.  (Seriously, where was this light-speed time when we were sitting in the NICU?  I’ve never seen a seconds hand crawl so slowly as it did in there; now the days race by.)  I’m just trying to enjoy every moment I have with my cuddly baby before she’s yanking all the pots and pans out of my cupboards.

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Bonjour, Maman! Je t’aime!

Speaking of enjoying the time we have together, now I really have to make it count, because – another big change this month – as of a week ago now, I’m back at work.  I have to say… I knew it would be difficult, but I didn’t know it would be this difficult.  The first thing I did when I got to my office last Monday was to set up about half a dozen pictures of Peanut on my desk, but it’s not the same thing as having the real, live, cooing and smiling Peanut right in my arms.  I got plenty of good advice from my mom friends about how to make the transition easier, and I’m trying to take it, but it’s going to take awhile before I get used to leaving Peanut at home – if I ever do.  And I have it easy, when you think about it.  Peanut is at home with her aunt all day (an experienced nanny in the family = jackpot) and I have an interesting job that I actually like, where I get to work with a great group of kind, caring people.  And still I’m a wreck.  I can’t imagine what it would be like if Peanut didn’t have a caregiver who loves her almost as much as I do, or if I hated my job or worked with mean people.  I’m lucky, and I’m still a weepy mess.  For a couple of days I really enjoyed wearing dangly earrings all day (Peanut is grabby) but the novelty’s worn off and now I just want my baby.  Ah, well, I’ll get used to it.

Peanut at 5 Months

Adjusted Age: 3 months

Weight: 10 lbs, 7 oz

Clothing Size: 3 months – yay!  It was sad to pack away so many of Peanut’s cute clothes, but she got TONS of outfits in her new size from Santa and her grandparents this Christmas, and the silver lining is that I get to play with them all.  We’ve been having fashion shoots on the Boppy lounger.

Sleep: Still challenging.  On the advice of Peanut’s pediatrician, we’ve instituted a 7:00 p.m. bottle-and-bedtime.  (Before, we were feeding Peanut on a more round-the-clock, NICU-style schedule.)  The bedtime is mandatory, but Peanut views it as a negotiation.  We’ve had many, many nights of cuddle… put down… cry… paci… cry harder… cuddle… put down… cry… paci… cry harder – and the cycle can go on for hours.  Seriously, there have been nights on which I’ve “put Peanut down” at 7:30 and not fallen into bed myself until after 10:30.  Three hours of “negotiating” with a baby who is determined not to sleep in her crib is nothing short of exhausting.  Especially when it happens multiple nights in a row.  I think part of the problem may be that Peanut has experienced a lot of changes in a short period of time – her feeding schedule changed, she was unswaddled, Mom went back to work, Auntie Em started taking care of her, and she was hit with a new bedtime, all pretty much at once.  So we’ve gone back to swaddling for awhile, just until she gets used to some of the other changes.  I do think the bedtime will eventually click if we’re patient, but it’s the process of trying to establish it that is just wiping me out.  I’m bone tired, and so is hubby.

Likes: Her hands.  They are the coolest.  THE.  COOLEST.  Also likes playing with her soccer ball and her zebra; Lady GaGa (big smiles whenever Mommy sings the opening bars of “Bad Romance,” which I agree are pretty funny); the pendant lights in the kitchen (I hate them, but now I’m so glad I was too lazy to replace them when we moved in).

Dislikes: Bedtime.  Bedtime.  Bedtime.  Socks.  Bedtime.

Favorite Toys: Aside from her own hands, which are the most fascinating toys around these days, Peanut is in L-O-V-E with her Fisher Price Ocean Wonders rattle – it was the first toy she intentionally reached for – and she can’t get enough time playing with her Taggies soccer ball or her Bright Starts zebra.

Milestones: Reaches for and grasps toys; has discovered hands and spends hours looking at them, bringing them together and putting them in her mouth; smiles spontaneously; giggles!

Quirks: We’ll have to wait to see if I’m right about this, but I think Peanut might be left-handed like her dad.  I don’t know if it’s a trait that can be observed this young, so I could be totally wrong.  But I’ve had this suspicion for awhile – even back in the NICU, she had more success getting her left thumb in her mouth than her right thumb.  I didn’t think much about it (had other things on my mind) but a friend with a baby boy about a month older than Peanut told me at the time that her little guy had been going after his left thumb too, and she thought he might be a lefty.  I forgot about it until recently, when Peanut started playing with her toys and I noticed she reached and grasped more, and showed more dexterity and strength, with her left hand than with her right.  At first I thought it might be because I am right-handed, so when I sit facing her and hold her toys for her with my right hand, they’re on the left side of her body and of course she reaches for them with her left hand.  But I tried switching my hand and I noticed she wasn’t as good at reaching and grabbing toys with her right hand, and that she would sometimes even reach across her body to get at a toy with her left hand.  And I also took note of the fact that she still has more success getting her left hand to her mouth than her right (although by now, she can get the right hand in her mouth quite readily too, and she really has no preference – she’ll suck on any hand that comes within licking range).  So I am now becoming very curious to see which hand will be her dominant hand.  I really hope it’s her left, because I think it would be so cool to have spotted it when she was five months old.  But only time will tell if I’m right!

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They skate around chasing after a plastic hamburger? Makes sense to me.

Peanut’s First Christmas

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It wasn’t exactly what I had imagined, but Peanut’s first Christmas was pretty perfect.  We had been talking about going to my parents’ home in upstate New York for the holiday, but we decided to wait because there was a flu going around and we wanted Peanut to be a bit bigger and have had more shots before we took her on such a big trip.  It turned out to be the right decision, since several of my family members were sick and while I know they wouldn’t have gone near Peanut while they were under the weather, we still would have worried.  So we stayed home and celebrated a small, quiet Christmas – just the three of us – and it was just right.

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On Christmas Eve, hubby and I laid out the presents from Santa while Peanut snoozed in her swing.  (In future years we’ll be a lot more judicious about not doing this in front of her – and we’ll leave cookies for Santa and carrots for the reindeer – but there was really no need for that this year.  We just wanted to get the job done and get Peanut changed and fed and shuffled off to bed.)  She went down beautifully for me, but I couldn’t sleep all night – not excitement, I don’t think; I just couldn’t get comfortable.  Morning came too quickly.

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By daylight, Santa’s stack looked even more insane than when I piled everything up the night before.  I guess he went a little overboard!  Oh, well, is anyone really surprised?  It was bound to happen for Peanut’s first Christmas.  (And probably her second… and third… and what can I say?  Shopping for babies is fun.)  Peanut snoozed while hubby and I caffeinated, and then hubby gave her her 9:00 a.m. bottle and I changed her into her adorable Christmas morning outfit.  And the next thing we knew, it was time for Peanut and hubby to come downstairs while Mommy videotaped the big moment.

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Peanut was bemused, but she does love the lights on the Christmas tree.

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We set her up on her newborn lounger while she checked out all her festively wrapped gifts.  She was definitely interested.  Or is that look more “horrified” than interested?  Heh.  It’s a good thing I didn’t take her to sit on Santa’s lap this year.  I can only imagine the epic silliness that might have ensued.

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Daddy explained Santa to Peanut while Mommy got more tea.  We had a BIG stack to get through.

 

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I can’t believe I’m going to say this, but opening all those gifts was kind of exhausting.  I can’t wait until Peanut can rip wrapping paper herself.  She got plenty of clothes – since she’s almost grown out of her newborn clothes, I thought I’d let Santa outfit her with a 0-3 month wardrobe – and lots of books, because obviously Santa was going to bring plenty of books to this house.  He always does.

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And there were toys, too.  Plenty of toys.  Peanut even liked some of them.  (But she gave this pigeon – who, when you press his tummy, yells LET ME DRIVE THE BUSSSSSSSS! – a pretty dirty look.)  Midway through, I started thinking about making a trip to Target to get a hamper for the family room, to store some of these toys.  Peanut’s pink bins definitely won’t fit it all.

The rest of the day was relaxing.  Daddy played some video games, Mommy had a nice cup of tea and caught up on some Martha Stewart magazines, and we did lots of family snuggling on the couch while watching Downton Abbey (we’re trying to re-watch every episode thus far before series 3 starts airing in January).  And I found the time to roast a chicken (no sense doing a whole turkey for just us) and bake a meyer lemon cake for Christmas dinner.  It may not have been the big, loud family gathering I had in mind when I was pregnant and we were talking about holiday plans. But I had the two most important people in the world right next to me, and the most beautiful gift of all to cuddle with all day.

Merry, indeed.

Merry and Bright

Merry (almost) Christmas, friends!  I hope that while your cider is mulling, your treats are baking and your lights are twinkling, you are getting some good quality time with your family and friends.  I’m probably buried under a pile of wrapping paper or running around making last-minute preparations for Peanut’s first Christmas as you read this.  ‘Tis the season!

I’ll be back on Wednesday with a Christmas recap, but for now, here’s a poem to bring some sparkle to your holiday, by (who else?) my favorite poet, e.e. cummings.

little tree

little tree
little silent Christmas tree
you are so little
you are more like a flower

who found you in the green forest
and were you very sorry to come away?
see     i will comfort you
because you smell so sweetly

i will kiss your cool bark
and hug you safe and tight
just as your mother would
only don’t be afraid

look     the spangles
that sleep all the year in a dark box
dreaming of being taken out and allowed to shine
the balls the chains red and gold the fluffy threads

put up your little arms
and i’ll give them all to you to hold
every finger shall have its ring
and there won’t be a single place dark or unhappy

then when you’re quite dressed
you’ll stand in the window for everyone to see
and how they’ll stare!
oh but you’ll be very proud

and my little sister and i will take hands
and looking up at our beautiful tree
we’ll dance and sing
“Noel Noel”

To all my friends: I hope your holiday season is merry and bright.

Peanut: Four Months

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Just doing my stretches. Nothing to see here.

WOW – I can’t believe I’m already writing Peanut’s four month update.  I feel like I just pressed “publish” on her three month update, and yet here we are.  Four months.  A third of a year.  Where is the time going?  Please excuse my mom sniffles.

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Hi, pretty lady.
You don’t look like my mom, but you seem to have brought food, so I guess you can stay.

This has been a busy month for Peanut & co.  We’ve had an influx of houseguests – Grandma and Auntie Em for Thanksgiving, Aunt R soon after, followed immediately by Nana and Grand Dad, and finally Uncle Dan just last weekend.  And while we love visitors, and we love each of the people who dropped in this month, the flow of houseguests has left both Peanut and her parents exhausted, overstimulated, and in desperate need of some quiet time.  We have about two weeks now without guests, until the next installment of family comes after Christmas, and while I’m so looking forward to seeing them, I’m also glad to have ahead of me a stretch of days where it will just be Peanut and me, snuggling and reading on the couch.

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Wait. This isn’t Daddy. Seriously, Mom, who is this guy?

Oh, yes.  About the snuggling and reading on the couch.  We’re still doing that, despite the pediatrician’s gentle suggestion that we really should be more disciplined about crib naps.  I have tried to be better about enforcing the crib for naptime, but Peanut really, really hates napping in her crib during the day, even though she’s perfectly happy to snuggle on Mommy anytime.  A big part of the problem with the crib is – as a friend suggested to me – you need to do a “delicate transfer” of baby to crib once baby has nodded off.  Well, that’s fine for tall people (like the friend who suggested it), but I’m very petite (a shade under five feet) and I just can’t execute.  Daddy is more successful because he can keep Peanut snuggled up to his chest while he leans over the crib and deposits her on the mattress before she even realizes what’s happened.  But Mommy has to “forklift” Peanut into the crib and she wakes up every. blinking. time.  So crib naps just aren’t happening that often for us.  But I’m okay with it, because my maternity leave is ticking away and I want to get in as many snuggles as I can before I have to return to the working world.

Santa is coming!

You said he brings presents? Presents? PRESENTS?!?!?!

In addition to hugs and snuggles, I’m storing up smiles.  Peanut is full of them lately – especially between 8:00 and 9:30 a.m.  She greets me with a big grin almost every morning and chats happily through her diaper change and bottle.  And she’s just so much fun in the morning – babbling and interacting with everything and everyone she sees – that she makes me forget how tired I am before my tea.

Oh noes, it's the Mamarazzi again.

Oh noes, it’s the Mamarazzi again.

Of course, hand in hand with those bubbly mornings goes the certainty that she’ll unravel later in the day.  She’s not colicky, thank goodness, but by around 5:30 p.m. she’s pretty much had it with the day and she gets progressively fussier until around 8:00, when she dozes off, usually on Mommy and with one little hand buried under the neckline of Mommy’s shirt.  (I guess she likes her hands to be warm?)  And thus ends most of our days.

Peanut at 4 Months:

Adjusted Age: 2 months
Weight: 8 lbs, 9 oz
Length: ~23 inches cooperative
Clothing Size: Newborn still, but she’s very close to growing out of it.  Santa will be bringing her plenty of 0-3 month size clothes, since she barely has any and she’ll be needing them soon.
Sleep: Lots to say on this front!  We’re still doing fairly well with putting Peanut down after her 9:00 p.m. bottle, although we had a temporary setback in that department.  I was stressed about something for a few days (unrelated to Peanut) and I think she sensed that I was tense and started acting out after her evening bottle as a result.  I definitely think babies can tell, and to paraphrase one article I read while in the thick of it, if you depended on someone else for your survival and they were upset about something, and you didn’t know what it was, wouldn’t you freak out?  When the source of my stress eased up a bit, the nighttime shenanigans eased up too, so I definitely think there was a connection there.  Let’s hope it doesn’t start up again, because I was a pretty tired Mommy for awhile.  Also on the topic of sleep, our pediatrician has told us that at four months we can start gently nudging Peanut toward sleeping through the night.  Huzzah!  We’ll start slowly, by allowing her to stretch out her middle of the night bottle (as in, we won’t wake her up to eat, but instead let her sleep until she wakes up and feels hungry; the ped thinks we’ll get an extra hour or so out of her right off the bat).  I don’t know that we’ll ever go the true “sleep training” route, since I’m more of an attachment parent.  But I am employing some sleep training techniques already; specifically, I’m trying to set up some rituals to signal to Peanut that it’s time to sleep.  When I go in for her 9:00 p.m. and 5:00 a.m. bottles I am very quiet and don’t chat or sing, unlike the daytime bottles, because I want her to learn that these are “quiet times.”  But before I put her down at each of those feedings, and for naps during the day, I sing “Hush Little Baby,” which we’ve designated as our “sleepytime” song.  I want Peanut to associate “Hush Little Baby” with cuddling up and going to sleep, so it’s reserved for those times; we sing other songs during the day.  Well – sorry to be so long-winded about sleep!  It’s been a big focus for us this month, though, and sure to remain that way for a few more months yet.
Likes: Still enjoying stroller walks and being carried around; loves to suck on her paci and her toys, especially a crab rattle that was part of a gift basket from my firm; enjoys staring at the pretty white lights on the Christmas tree; madly in love with her swing (still getting used to the bouncey seat, though).  And I wouldn’t call it a “like,” but she is finally beginning to tolerate baths without screaming – win!
Dislikes: Being weighed on her baby scale; tummy time (still) – although she’s pretty much given up on putting any effort into lifting her head, and now she just lays around licking her hand; wearing socks.
Milestones: Great head control while being held basically upright by Mommy or Daddy, although she can’t be bothered to practice during tummy time; lots of smiles and babbling, especially in the morning; rolled over again, for Mommy this time!
Quirks: Definitely a morning person!  She’s bubbly and chatty and oh-so-fun first thing in the morning, then gradually falls apart as the day wears on.  This isn’t surprising at all, since both Mommy and Daddy are morning people as well.  We’ll see how much Auntie Em enjoys it when she takes over baby care duties for us after I go back to work, though…

HA HA MOMMY UR SWADDLES R A JOKE LOL.

HA HA MOMMY UR SWADDLES R A JOKE LOL.

Holiday Hits: Mama Must-Haves

Do you have a new (or not-so-new) mom on your holiday shopping list?  Oh, man, then do I have some ideas for you!  Listen, the best thing you could get the moms in your life is the gift that keeps on giving: a clown to entertain them during those 3:00 a.m. feedings.  Hear me?

I kid, I kid.  I meant a magician.

Okay, but seriously.  If you are shopping for a mom, especially a new mom, here are some of the things that have made my life better, easier, or just plain nicer in the months since Peanut was born:

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Yoga pants.  For the mom who is afraid to try on her pre-pregnancy jeans.  (Holla back, ladies.)  I’ve been rocking the sweats from Target most days, but there are some days when I just want to look nice, dangit.  Like those days when I was just plain burnt out on the NICU, and I wanted to appear somewhat polished if only to make myself feel a wee bit better.  (Pretty scarves are good for that too.)  Or just days when I feel like looking pretty and I think nice yoga pants will distract from the bags under my eyes after a night of rocking and shushing (Peanut, not me).  Every mom will have her own preference; personally, my go-to is the Perfect Core Pant from Lucy Activewear.  It’s like wearing a hug.

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Hand lotion.  With all the scrubbing I do to keep the ugly germs away from Peanut (especially now that flu season is underway) my hands are permanently reptilian.  I’ve taken to keeping lotion in strategic places throughout the house – I have a tube in the family room, one in the diaper bag, one in my bedroom, and one in the master bathroom – and I am constantly applying it.  Now, hand lotion doesn’t have to be fancy; it just has to work.  I learned that when I became addicted to the stuff that Peanut’s hospital stocked all over the NICU.  But nice, scented lotion in a pretty container makes me feel a little less like a zombie and a little more like a lady.  My favorites are the Organic Hand Cream from Oliviers & Co. (a gift from R) and Aveda Hand Relief (my sister-in-law turned me on to this stuff last year), or anything lavender scented.  Bonus points for would-be Santas if you can find a lotion in Mom’s favorite scent.

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Food!  My in-laws had a catering service deliver meals to us after Peanut came home from the hospital, and it was in.cred.i.ble.  If you like to cook or bake, moms love home-cooked food (this is something I generally do for my new mom friends as part of their baby shower gifts), but catered meals are just as amazing.  I can’t tell you how nice it was to have several days where I didn’t have to think about what to make for dinner because there were fresh, healthy meals already prepared in my freezer.  I’ve gotten into the swing of motherhood now and have made the time to prepare some freezer meals, and I am generally more organized and more able to put meals together than I was in those early days.  But darnit, that catering delivery sure was appreciated that first week.

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Babysitting services.  Here’s a great, FREE gift that I guarantee a mom will appreciate!  (And more than a lot of expensive items you might be thinking of getting, probably.)  Don’t get me wrong, we love those kiddos to pieces.  But any mom would appreciate a night out with her guy, or even just an afternoon “off” to go to yoga, read, or do whatever she likes (nap!) without worrying about the wee ones.  Especially for moms of young ‘uns, the idea of trusting the offspring to the neighborhood teenagers might not be the most appealing.  (And I say this as someone who spent almost every weekend of my teenaged years babysitting, and made a ton of money that way – there actually are responsible teenagers out there who will play with the kids instead of letting them watch TV and then clean the house after putting their charges to bed.  I was a very in-demand sitter.  And also a super cool person with tons of friends, okay???)  But most moms would probably be a bit more comfortable leaving the baby to a family member or trusted friend.  My Peanut is a little young to be left at all right now, but for moms of older babies, toddlers or school-aged kids, I would think this would be a great gift.

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Sentimental Jewelry.  It’s no secret – we moms are a sentimental bunch.  (Well, most of us are, anyway.  I think.  We’re also a diverse bunch, so I’m sure there are plenty of non-sentimental moms out there too.)  But for those moms who get all giddy over any mention of their kids – guilty, although I hear the infatuation drops off sharply after they hit age 13 or so – cute sentimental jewelry can make a great gift.  I have the above necklace with Peanut’s name (her actual name, not “Peanut”) in sterling silver, although it’s also available in 14k gold.  There are thousands of cute name necklaces out there – pick the style that most appeals to the recipient.  Or you could go with an initial necklace (not gonna lie, I’m in the market for a gold “E” pendant – still looking for the perfect one) or a picture locket (hey, they’re not all frumpy).  For moms with multiple kiddos, there are necklaces that can be customized with more than one name or initial.  I love Etsy for cute, personalized jewelry, but there are plenty of other options too.

I’m a lawyer and we like to wreck everything, so I’m just going to unnecessarily remind you that this post wasn’t paid for or perked.  I’m recommending the above items because I honestly have found them useful or nice, and everything on this list I bought with my own money, or received as a personal gift from someone else who bought the item with their own money.  If I fulfilled my long-held dream of moving to Canada tomorrow, not one of these companies or sellers would care.  Peace.

Friends, what are you buying for the mamas on your shopping list?  (Not me, I like to be surprised.)  Mamas, what items can’t you live without?

Holiday Hits: Baby Buys

It’s no secret that I love the holiday season.  Decorating the house, baking Christmas cookies, and picking out just the right gifts for my loved ones – that stuff really revs my engine.  This year I’m more excited than ever before to celebrate, because I’ve got a little Peanut who will be experiencing all the joys of her very first holiday season!  And even though she’s too young to remember any of it, I’m still pumped beyond belief.  So it probably comes as no surprise at all that I’ve been shopping for Peanut’s first Christmas gifts pretty much since September.  What can I say?  It’s fun to buy for baby!  If you have a baby coming to your celebrations, and you’re looking for some good ideas too, here are some things that Peanut has that we’ve really enjoyed, or that I’m planning to get for her this year:

Art cards.  Very young babies don’t see too well, but they LOVE looking at bold, high-contrast patterns and designs since those are the easiest for their little eyes to focus on.  The art cards from Wee Gallery feature bold, graphic designs for the babies, but they’re cool enough that mamas will enjoy the pictures too!  Peanut has a set of the Sea Collection cards and they’re so fun and funky that I’m considering framing them when she’s done with them.  (My favorite is the octopus, but Peanut especially loves staring at the stingray.)

BabyLit Board Books.  I first saw these books on the Quirky Bookworm blog when I was newly pregnant and filed the idea away for when Peanut’s arrival got closer.  I ended up going a little crazy and bought her Pride and Prejudice, Jane Eyre and Romeo + Juliet before she was born, and Alice in Wonderland shortly after she arrived.  She got Dracula as a Halloween present, and I’m planning to give her A Christmas Carol for Christmas, which will complete her collection.  These books are fun counting and color primers and make adorable introductions to classic literature.  Plus, I can’t get enough of the bold illustrations.  (The illustrations in Pride and Prejudice are my favorites.  I love the trees.)  If there’s a baby in your life who happens to hail from a bookworm family, these would be a huge hit.

In My… Board Books.  These board books feature finger puppets!  Let the wilding begin!  The illustrations in these books, which describe the cozy habitats of various animals (In My Tree, In My Pond, In My Meadow etc.), are really unique.  And the finger puppets are too cute.  Santa will be bringing a couple of these to Peanut this year.  Peanut will enjoy the pictures, and Mommy will have fun with the puppet.  Don’t judge.

Sophie the Giraffe.  Okay, you might feel a little silly buying baby an expensive status teether.  In fact, you might feel silly just for knowing that there is such a thing as a status teether.  And yes, I feel like an indescribably ridiculous yuppie when I hand Peanut her Sophie and wheel her around in her BOB stroller.  But… whatever, Sophie is magnifique.  This is one of the few toys that is appropriate for brand-new infants as well as older babies.  Peanut isn’t teething yet, but she likes to practice her grip on Sophie’s neck (poor Sophie), and Mommy encourages strangling Sophie instead of the alternative (generally, pulling Mommy’s hair).  And, bonus, when Peanut does start to teethe I can feel good about Sophie going in her mouth, because she’s made with food-safe dyes.  C’est delicieux.

Fabric ball.  Another gift that’s appropriate for tiny newborns on up, fabric balls are fab.  Babies love the different textures and colors (and some balls come with tags to grab too – fun!), and moms can feel okay knowing that if baby uses this to smack herself in the face (just my kid?) she won’t get hurt.  I like this one from Haba, because the bright colors are baby-friendly but the rainbow design is also kind of sophisticated.

Clutching toys.  Young babies love to clutch and grab things, and it’s good for them to practice their fine motor skills.  But if you’re like most moms, you’d rather baby clutched and grabbed at an age appropriate toy, instead of your hair or your jewelry.  Peanut has a few clutching toys from Haba (can you tell I like this company? they use food-safe dyes and earth-friendly materials; good for baby and good for the planet!) and I think this one is particularly cute.

Plan Toys.  Okay, most of the toys from this company are a little too advanced and not really appropriate for Peanut yet, but if you’re looking to shop for an older baby or young toddler, I’m obsessed with the Earth-friendly wooden toys from Plan Toys.  I love the green Stacking Tree, and I’m planning to get it for Peanut this Christmas and just play with it myself until she’s ready.  (What?  It’s cute!)  She already has the Lacing Sheep, another toy which is rather beyond her at the moment, and we just look at it together – she’ll take it apart and put it together under my watchful eye when she’s a bit bigger.  (Parents, note: there are some small parts to these toys.  They’re super cute and hard to resist, but if you do buy them for a younger baby, make sure you supervise baby’s play.  I’m sure you would anyway, but I’m a lawyer and we like to state the obvious.)

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By the way, I should mention that this post isn’t paid for or perked.  Everything that I mentioned Peanut owns was bought for her by hubby and me or by our family and friends.  None of these companies has any idea who I am.  Nor, for that matter, do most of my neighbors.  Ten-four.

Are there any babies on your holiday shopping list?  What are you planning to get for them?  Share in the comments so I can shamelessly steal your ideas.

Nursery Tales: Happily Ever After

Well, friends, here it is: the long-awaited final chapter of Peanut’s nursery decorating saga.  (Long-awaited by ME, in any event.)

Let’s see… when we left off, we had cleared out the space, painted the walls a happy yellow shade, had a panic attack and a corresponding flurry of activity, and made an indecent number of trips to Home Depot.  And after this flurry of activity (a substantial portion of which was done during naptimes or feeding times – i.e. hubby would do a project while I fed Peanut, or vice versa – once Peanut came home from the hospital), we’ve got ourselves a sunny, cheery space for baby girl.  It’s the first room in the house that I actually consider “done” (the rest of the place has a long way to go before it goes from builder bland to personal and meaningful) and I think it’s currently my favorite room.  So let’s get to it, yeah?

Above you see the view from the door.  Peanut’s crib stands against the far wall, under a decal of tulips from Pottery Barn Kids.  I had grand plans of hanging a frame collage on that wall, a la Young House Love in their nursery, but I realized two things: (1) I have neither the time, nor the energy, to track down enough coordinating frames and DIY meaningful art; and (2) I don’t trust myself to anchor the frames to the wall securely enough for them to go over the crib.  So one evening, when I was sick of being greeted by a blank wall whenever I walked into Peanut’s room, yet was completely exhausted and unable to deal with the idea of doing anything more strenuous than slapping some stickers on the wall, I decided to look for a decal.  While I was planning the nursery, I firmly rejected the idea of decals: they were cop-outs, I told myself, and tacky to boot.  But when, in my state of near-zombie exhaustion, I finally caved, I was shocked to find some really adorable decals at not-outrageous prices.  I actually had a hard time deciding what to get, but I settled on the tulips because they fit perfectly in with my loose “handmade flower garden” theme for Peanut’s room.

Peanut’s other major wall art piece hangs between her two windows.  (Incidentally, the window treatments are the Pretty Pleats curtains from Land of Nod, the baby and kids’ arm of Crate & Barrel, and the curtain rods are from Home Depot.  We pull the blinds down to darken the room a bit, but we don’t use blackout curtains.  I know some parents swear by them, but in the NICU they cautioned us not to make the room too dark or quiet, since Peanut had gotten used to light and activity.)

The print, of a little girl reading a story to a group of bunnies, was the starting point for the nursery aesthetic.  It is from Trafalgars Square, an Etsy seller, and my heart melted the moment I saw it.  Isn’t it adorable?  Under the windows are two pink rope bins from Land of Nod; one holds Peanut’s receiving blankets and afghans, and the other is a landing spot for her cuddly toys.

Let’s take a closer look at Peanut’s bed and sitting area.  Her bedding is “Puzzle Patch” from Land of Nod.  I love the crazy quit, with its adorable pinks, yellows and greens, and the sheets that go with it.  The crib skirt is “Pretty Pleats” – like the curtains.  (Full disclosure: the quilt usually doesn’t hang over the side of the crib like that.  I “styled” it to look pretty for the photograph.  It’s dangerous to have anything in the crib but a fitted sheet – and mattress pad – and baby.  Safety first!  The quilt usually hangs over the back of Peanut’s upholstered rocker – which is from Pottery Barn Kids – and Clochette hangs out in one of Peanut’s toy bins.  She wanted to come say hi to the blog, though.)

The floor lamp in the corner is from Land of Nod – I love the pink shade and the sweet birds – and so is the crib.  The side table is from Pottery Barn Kids and makes a good landing spot for a bottle when hubby or I comes upstairs to feed and rock Peanut.  It’s also the resting place for Peanut’s AngelCare monitor.

Here’s a picture you’ve seen already!  Peanut’s dresser (which is from Land of Nod, although I replaced the pulls with blank matte knobs from Home Depot) holds her tiny clothes as well as burp cloths, bibs, swaddling blankets and sheets, pump accessories, extra diapers and wipes.  On top of the dresser is the changing mat, which hubby bolted tightly to the back of the dresser for added security (but we’ll be able to remove it when Peanut is a big girl, and no one will ever see the holes, since they’re facing the wall).  I also picked up a couple of pink baskets from the Container Store, which keep diapers and baby care supplies within easy reach for me.  And there’s a cute little Plan Toys sheep hanging out there too, just waiting for the day when Peanut is old enough to play with him (when she’s two or so).

And above the dresser, just in case we ever forget Peanut’s name (we’re pretty sleep-deprived) we hung her wall letters.  We got them from Pottery Barn Kids, but it’s plenty easy to find them in other stores too, or even to paint your own if you have the time and skill (I don’t).

 

One thing I really wanted to do was hang some of Peanut’s little dresses from hooks on her doors.  I was originally eyeing some patchwork bird hooks, but at the last minute these flower hooks (again, from Pottery Barn Kids) captured my heart.  The dresses are from Cherokee Baby – I got them at Target – and the hangers were her Nana’s.  One hook hangs on Peanut’s closet door and the other on the door to her room; both face into the room.

I think this is my favorite part (of course) – the book storage!  I had my heart set on wall ledges and found these at Land of Nod.  They don’t hold many books, but that’s okay – they’re more for display than anything else.  The bulk of the book storage is on the Library Cart, also from Land of Nod.  I am ridiculously in love with this thing.  Not only does it add great functional storage… but, well… you know how I feel about libraries.  The top shelf holds Peanut’s books (and the Dragonstone Castle from Haba, which I love), and on the bottom shelf, two pink tin cubes are devoted to more toy storage.  The elephant chair was a gift from Peanut’s Grandma (it was supposed to be a baby shower gift, but Peanut showed up ten days before my baby shower and all festivities were cancelled) – I can just see her sitting in it to look at her books when she’s a toddler!

So, there you have it: a bright, happy garden of a little girl’s room, with sweet touches and plenty of function.  My new favorite room in the house!

And they all lived happily ever after.

Thanksgiving Recap 2012

Hi friends!  I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend filled with turkey and the accompaniments, especially cranberry sauce (with ridges, natch!), shoe buckles and all things Pilgrim.  We celebrated Thanksgiving in true lazy new parent style, with a Whole Foods catered meal.  (Mostly – I made artichoke dip, which I always make, citrus-roasted brussels sprouts, and a butternut squash and sweet potato puree with brown sugar and toasted pecans.  Everything else – turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, carrots and dessert – was provided by the WF.)  We told our relatives that we were staying put for the holiday and that anyone who wanted to join us was welcome, but don’t expect an elaborate home-cooked feast this year.  Hubby’s mom and sister took us up on the invitation and we enjoyed a low-key weekend, only venturing out for a family stroll around the neighborhood with the BOB on Friday.  It was quiet, and relaxed, and perfect.

Some pics…

Peanut snuggles with her aunt.  It’s a good thing they got along so well, because – best news of the weekend – Auntie E is going to nanny for us for a few months when I go back to work!  My mom had promised to give us a few months as well, so between the two of them we should be able to get through until Peanut can get into our chosen daycare (she’s on a LONG wait list) without having to hire a stranger.  We would have figured something out if we had to, but we’re so much happier to know that Peanut will be in the capable hands of first her aunt, and then her Nana, two people who we trust completely and who love Peanut almost as much as we do.  The perfect set of circumstances arose for Auntie E to spend a few months with us and we’re overjoyed to have found an arrangement that is good for all four of us (hubby, me, sis-in-law and Peanut).

We enjoyed a ginger cocktail to start our meal – I made it up and then looked forward to it for several days, and it was exactly as I imagined it would be!  Maybe I missed my calling?  Recipe coming in December, and this will definitely be on my Christmas and New Year’s menus.

Peanut hopes that you gobbled up plenty of time with your loved ones this weekend too!