The Spring List 2018

I know, you’re probably thinking – wasn’t there supposed to be a recap of the winter list first?  Well – normally, yes.  But I have nothing to recap, because I didn’t do one. single. thing. from that list.  Oops!  Blame work, you guys.  It’s been so insane that I have had legit no time to do anything at all.  So I’m blowing right past it, and getting right to listing out my hopes for spring.  At this point, who knows if any of it will happen.  But at least it’s fun to daydream and plan.

  • Catch up on the 52 hike challenge – I’m several weeks behind.
  • Decide on a destination for summer travel and start planning.
  • Visit Mount Vernon and see the baby animals (that was so much fun last year).
  • Take Peanut and her doll Willa to tea at the American Girl store.
  • Hike the Bluebell Loop Trail again.
  • Read Beverly Nichols’ Merry Hall trilogy.
  • Pick tulips at Holland in Haymarket again.
  • Start the process to get approved as a Girl Scout troop leader.
  • Bake a strawberry-rhubarb pie with a lattice crust (with fruit from the farmers’ market, if possible).
  • Write letters to my grandmother, and get up to New York to visit her at least once.

Here’s hoping that I get around to doing at least some of these.

What’s your favorite spring tradition?

It’s Monday! What Are You Reading? (March 12, 2018)

Happy, happy, happiest of birthdays to my big three-year-old guy!  I still can’t believe that Nugget has been with us for three whole years.  I know I’m a broken record on this point, but it really does seem like just yesterday that he was born.  This weekend was, of course, all about celebrating him.  We let him choose the activities all weekend long.  On Saturday, he wanted to hike, and Steve suggested Piscataway Park, since it’s fairly small, has nice views of the Potomac, and there are farm animals.  He had a ball, of course.  There was a brief lightsaber duel using sticks, but aside from that it was a very peaceful morning.  (I worked during naptime, but you have all probably guessed that already.)  His request for the evening was pizza delivery and a movie on the couch.  Somehow – I wasn’t present when the movie was selected – I walked into the room just in time to hear Robert Muldoon shouting “SHOOOOOOT HER!”  Jurassic Park, really?!  Peanut, who is surprisingly bloodthirsty, loved it, but Nugget was over it by the time the T-Rex started terrorizing Lex and Tim in the Jeep.  Ummmm.  Yeah.  Saw that coming.  We switched to Winnie-the-Pooh and he was happier.  On Sunday, his actual birthday, he asked to go to the zoo, so we all piled into the car and headed off for more animal fun.  As Steve said, the kids’ zoo-meters were on “full” after our morning – it seemed like we saw absolutely everything there was to see.  Lions, tiger, cheetahs, zebra, bison, gorillas, orangutans, pandas, elephants, sea lions, sloth bears, plus visits to Amazonia and the Reptile House (which always makes me think of Harry Potter).  We ended the weekend with a walk to the playground, a birthday dinner out in one of our favorite neighborhood restaurants, and takeaway gelato – all Nugget’s requests.  All in all, a pretty awesome weekend.  Nugget, in case you didn’t already know, is a really fun guy.

  

Reading.  Pretty busy reading week, I had.  I finished up Winter in Thrush Green early in the week – such a lovely, peaceful book.  I can’t get enough of Miss Read.  And I’m going to need her again soon because my next two reads were not at all peaceful.  In the latter half of the week, I read This Will Be My Undoing, which was a fascinating and illuminating essay collection about “living at the intersection of black, female, and feminist in (white) America” – as part of my ongoing mission to learn to be a good ally.  Finished that up on Friday and turned to – apparently I’m feeling extra political this week – Fire and Fury.  I know, I know, but everyone in D.C. is talking about it and I wanted to be part of the conversation.  I reserved it from the library and have been waiting more or less patiently for months.  And I know parts of it have been questioned or discredited, but if even a third of it is true – dayum.

Watching.  Well, there was the aforementioned Jurassic Park.  And on Friday night, Steve and I blazed through the final three episodes of the first season of The Good Place – such fun.  But the best thing I watched this week had to have been the delight and joy on Nugget’s face as he ripped open his birthday presents, explored the trail on his birthday hike, and rocketed around the zoo.  I think he had a great weekend, and I loved seeing him enjoy himself.  I’m so, so very glad that I have him.

Listening.  Honestly, y’all, I can’t remember what I listened to last week.  I know I listened to a few podcasts, but nothing is really jumping out as a highlight.  I’m thinking of switching back to Audible.  I have an audiobook of my favorite of the Anne series – Anne of the Island – and it’s calling my name.

Moving.  The most moving this week, like last week, was by air travel.  On Tuesday morning (6:30, bright and early!) I was taking off from D.C. on my way up to Boston for two days of meetings and hearings.  It was an exhausting trip, but there was one very bright spot – see below.  Other than that, I’ve already told you about my movement over the weekend – lots of kiddo-chasing on a hike and around the zoo.  (The National Zoo is built into a hill, so it’s actually a decent workout, walking around there.)

Blogging.  Spring list coming to you on Wednesday, and then on Friday I’m going to get controversial about Jane Austen.  You’re intrigued, aren’t you?  (It’s not that controversial.  Well, maybe.)

Loving.  Although my trip to Boston was short and hectic, and I was a bit grumpy about going at all, there was a highlight – I got to visit with Katie!  I haven’t seen her in more than five years, and it felt so good to get hugs and a cup of tea from both Katie and Jeremiah.  For awhile, it didn’t look like it was going to work out, because work had me running around until after 9:00 p.m. on Tuesday, and I had an early morning meeting on Wednesday and other assignments to squeeze in.  But I was determined, and fortunately Katie is a night owl, so at 9:30 p.m. I found myself curled up on her sofa with a cup of peppermint tea.  She gave me the tour of her lovely new(ish) apartment, and we chatted as fast as we could about everything under the sun – books, family, Boston, D.C., politics, tea, work, you name it – for two hours.  I feel so lucky whenever I get to visit with a faraway blog friend (like when I had dinner with A.M.B. last May in Philadelphia) and I left Katie’s house drooping with exhaustion but beaming with the gladness that comes of two hours with a dear friend.  Thanks again for the tea and sympathy, dear Katie!

Asking.  What are you reading this week?

You Are Three, You Are Loved

Dear Puppy,

In two days, you will be three years old!  Where does the time go?  You’re still a baby, aren’t you?  Yes, I say, but no, you say.  You’re a BIG MAN, according to you.  You want to do everything yourself.  Getting dressed, washing your hands, brushing your teeth, putting on your sneakers and your jacket, even buckling yourself into your car seat.  You’re a fiercely independent little fella, and I love your determination and your fire.

You are Daddy’s “buddy bear,” and Kelly’s “Prince Charming,” and Mommy’s “puppy.”  You are the sweetest, silliest, most hilarious little soul.  Twenty times a day, I catch myself gazing at you in wonder.  How can you possibly be so big and bright already?  Weren’t you just placed in my arms for the first time yesterday?  You were, and yet you weren’t.  But just last Sunday you fell asleep in my arms and napped on me on the couch, so you’re still a baby.

On to the things about you.  Your love of fire trucks is going strong – especially the trucks from the firehouse near our home.  You love nothing more than to walk or ride your bike over there, shoot the breeze with the firefighters, and inspect the vehicles.  You’ve amassed such a fleet of toy fire trucks that I can’t even count them anymore, and you even have two toy firehouses.  I love that you love trucks that help people and keep your neighborhood safe.  You have such a big heart.

A more recent love: gorillas.  You’re a big zoo fan and you love lots of animals, but gorillas and orangutans have your heart.  A trip to the zoo is not complete without a visit to the Great Ape House.  (Come spring, there will be a baby gorilla.  I can’t wait to see your eyes light up.)  You love to comment on what the apes are doing – especially Baraka, the gorilla, and Redd, the baby orangutan.  Your delight in them is infectious.

Then there’s soccer.  If you see a ball, you have to kick it.  (This has caused some problems – like when you kick someone else’s ball, or when you kick a playground ball into something suspicious and liquidy.)  You’re really athletic for such a little guy, and you can kick the ball halfway across the field if you want to.  The soccer field on our block is one of your happy places, and the big kids are so nice about letting you play with them when you come tripping up to the field, clutching your big sister’s soccer ball to your chest, all hopeful smiles and impatient feet.  The best is when the field is empty, though.  Then we run and run and kick and scream with laughter until we fall down exhausted.

I can’t even tell you how much your smiles light up my world.  And your mischievous smirks, and your sweet arms reaching up and around my neck.  “I love you, Mama.”  Or, “Pretend I’m Redd and you’re Batang.”

You’re shockingly smart.  Not to be all braggy, but – your brain is truly amazing.  You know more about orbital dynamics than most adults I know, and you’ll hold forth on the topic to the whole playground (while wearing your space shuttle cape backwards, of course).  Your vocabulary includes hydrationintransigent (you told your beloved nanny, Regular Kelly, that she was being intransigent the other day – sigh), echolocationantagonizepaleontologist, and more.  People are always shocked at how clearly you speak and at the big words that come out of your little mouth.

You’re unabashedly you.  You love to put on your Darth Vader jammies and have a tea party (#KyloRen).  You adore Darth Vader and shout “Hey, it’s my buddy!” every time he’s on the TV screen – which is often, because you ask to watch Star Wars on a weekly basis.  (80% of your wardrobe, at least, is made up of fire truck and Star Wars-themed clothes, and you often request your “Master Yoda glow-in-the-dark” shirt.)

You love to be outdoors.  The outdoor world is your happy place and immediate cure for anything that troubles you.  If you wake up grumpy from your nap (bad dream?) I always know how to make it better – throw on your sweatshirt and sneakers and hustle out the door to play on the playground, kick the soccer ball, dig in the sandbox or just breathe fresh air.  You love nature, too.  You’re happy to hike on foot most of the time, these days, and you find opportunities to hike everywhere – from the dirt road at Mount Vernon to the bushes on the edge of your favorite playground.  When asked where you’re hiking, you always answer: “Shenandoah.”

You’re so very sweet.  You share your nanny with a baby girl, and you’re so very gentle and loving with her that your nanny is constantly getting asked if you and the baby are siblings.  You’re teaching the baby to crawl and you love to hold and kiss her.  You’re also crazy about your sister’s friends – especially her BFF, S, and another friend, C.  Really you’re just a dear kindhearted little spirit with so much love to give.  You’re forever hugging and kissing and reaching up to hold hands.

And you’re still a mama’s boy.  You are looking for me from the minute you wake up, and you’re in my arms every chance we both can get.  There is a special place in my heart reserved just for you and I must kiss your little cheeks a thousand times a day.  They say there’s nothing like the love between boys and their moms and I can attest to the truth in that.  You’re my treasure; you light up my life.  I really can’t see how the world muddled along for so many years without you, and I sure am glad you’re here now.

Happy birthday, my puppy.

Love,

Mommy

Reading Round-Up: February 2018

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Reading is my oldest and favorite hobby.  I literally can’t remember a time in my life when I didn’t love to curl up with a good book.  Here are my reads for February, 2018

Salvage the Bones, by Jesmyn Ward – Esch lives with her brothers on a hardscrabble patch of land called the Pit.  Life is tough.  Esch’s mother died in childbirth and her father is usually drunk and mostly absent.  Salvage the Bones tells the story of approximately two weeks leading up to, and encompassing, Hurricane Katrina.  Esch is fourteen and newly pregnant, her father has snapped out of a fog and is obsessively preparing for the hurricane – which doesn’t really concern any of the kids – Esch’s brother Skeet is worrying over his pitbull’s new puppies and her other brothers are trying to carve out a place for themselves.  Salvage the Bones was a gritty book – grittier than I usually read.  There was a dogfighting scene which I knew was coming and was able to avoid, but the rest of the book was nearly as brutal.  It was well-written but hard to read.

Thrush Green (Thrush Green #1), by Miss Read – There’s nothing like Miss Read to counteract the effects of a particularly tough book.  Thrush Green is the first in a series of the same name, and introduces the reader to the village of Thrush Green and its inhabitants, and those of a larger market town, Lulling, nearby.  All the events of the book take place on a single day – May 1, when Curdle’s Fair visits and sets up on the village green.  Through the day, we meet many of the characters who will recur throughout the Thrush Green series – sweet, sad Ruth, gentle Dr. Lovell, mischievous Paul, bustling Dimity, blustering Ella, kind Dr. and Mrs. Bailey… and we see the town through the eyes of Mrs. Curdle, the fair’s proprietress, and her grandson and heir apparent, Ben, who is in love with a Thrush Green girl.  Not to prattle on, but it was such a delight.  A re-read for me, I loved reacquainting myself with Thrush Green and its environs – like an English spring day, it’s pure refreshment.

I Am Malala: The Story of the Girl Who Stood Up for Education and was Shot by the Taliban, by Malala Yousafzai – This one had been on my list for a very long time, and I finally got around to checking it out from the library.  It was a powerful story, indeed.  I was already acquainted with Malala’s story, in general, as most are – she is now, after all, a global celebrity.  But I really wanted to read her story in her own words.  So, I thought that I Am Malala was wonderful, but with one reservation.  The book was co-written, naturally, and I felt that the word choices sometimes strayed too far into the territory of making the voice sound like a young girl’s.  I found myself wondering how much was authentically Malala, and how much was the co-writer imposing what she thought should be Malala’s style.  That said, I wouldn’t have missed this for the world, and especially once Malala starts her activism, the narrative takes off and becomes absolutely riveting.  It’s an important read and well worth picking up.

Portrait of Elmbury (Brensham Trilogy #1), by John Moore – I’ve collected the first two volumes of the Brensham Trilogy from Slightly Foxed (the third is due to be released this summer) and have been so excited to dig in.  In this first volume, Moore captures the heart and spirit of an English market town from the late Edwardian period through to World War II.  Occasionally gritty, occasionally sentimental, most often real, Moore presents “Elmbury” (the thin disguise he gives his actual hometown of Tewkesbury) warts and all.  He starts the book by rhapsodically describing the high street outside the window of “Tudor House” (the splendid home where he grew up) then pivots directly into a down-and-dirty portrayal of the domestic squabbles of the residents of the hardscrabble alley across the street.  But even while being unabashedly real and portraying country town life in all its darknesses and difficulties, you can sense a real affection behind Moore’s portrayal of the town and its inhabitants.  I loved it.  (Word of caution: as with so many books of the period, there are a few sentences that are extremely jarring and offensive to the modern reader.  At some point, I am contemplating a post about babies and bathwater.  For now, reader be forewarned.  This one, I think, is worth the comparatively little problem language.)

Half of a Yellow Sun, by Chimanda Ngozi Adichie – In my quest to read through Adichie’s backlist, Half of a Yellow Sun was next up.  This is Adichie’s book about the Biafran War, a subject which seems to be close to her heart (I did some research into Adichie and she hails from the section of Nigeria which was once Biafra).  The narrative follows three main characters – Ugwu, a houseboy; Olanna, the wealthy lover of Ugwu’s master; and Richard, an expat who becomes friends with Olanna and her lover, Odenigbo.  Olanna and her twin sister, Kainene – Richard’s lover – are the daughters of a rich and important chief, and all of the characters (Ugwu, perhaps, excepted) begin the novel in great domestic comfort and end it barely surviving (or maybe not surviving – it’s not entirely clear, in one case) the horrors and privations of the Biafran War.  This is a period in history, and a region, that I am sorry to say I know very little about, and I was shocked and heartbroken at Adichie’s portrayal of the suffering that attended Biafra’s three-year secession from Nigeria.  Adichie, as always, writes extremely powerfully and beautifully, and while there are some hard passages, Half of a Yellow Sun was an astonishing read.

Well, a bit of a light February in books.  It was to be expected, since it’s a short month and I was (and still am) absolutely crazed at work.  Everything I read was good, so that is comforting.  Portrait of Elmbury had to be the highlight – I love a good descriptive book (fiction or non-) about rural England, and that was right in my wheelhouse.  On to March – a longer month, maybe a slightly less busy one (we can hope) and I am excited about my to-read pile.  For #femmemarch, I plan to read only women – shouldn’t be hard; most of my books are by women – and I’m excited to dig into some of my library acquisitions and to browse my own shelves a bit more.

What was the best thing you read in February?

It’s Monday! What Are You Reading? (March 5, 2018)

Monday, Monday, Monday.  Again.  Honestly, the days of the week don’t really mean anything to me anymore.  Saturday and Sunday are just the days I work at home in my pajamas instead of putting on my black pants and going to the office.  Do I even need to tell you I had weekend work?  Y’all probably just assume it at this point and it would be a fair assumption.  Next weekend, I’m determined to take both days off.  This weekend, I worked a few hours on both Saturday and Sunday – par for the course.  I was catching up from a particularly hectic week that saw me rushing off to Massachusetts on a last-minute, one-day business trip on Thursday – I was happy to go and it was a good trip, but it threw the week into a tailspin.  On Saturday I had to run into the office for about an hour, so Steve and the kids accompanied me downtown and went to the Natural History Museum while I quickly did the tasks I had to be in the office for.  I walked over to meet them, but by the time I got through the massive line into the museum, they were ready to leave.  I got to see the T-Rex skeleton and… that was it.  Total bust.  We had a better afternoon.  Once I wrapped up naptime work and the kids were up, we all went out for a bike ride and to the playground.  On the way, we stopped by the fire station (naturally) and Nugget got to ride his bike directly into the firehouse.  Mind blown!  Sunday morning, we headed down to Mount Vernon to hike the nature trail at the estate.  There were a few intrepid flowers poking up through the soil, and one flowering vine – spring is coming.  I worked during naptime, of course, and we finished the weekend with a walk/bike to the playground in the afternoon, then crashed on the couch in the evening.  I’m really, really burnt out and I need a few days of solid relaxation.  It doesn’t seem to be in the cards, though, so I’m taking what I can get.

  

Reading.  It was a better reading week, at least.  I finally finished Half of a Yellow Sun, which was gorgeous and heart-wrenching, as Adichie’s books always are.  (I’m almost through her bibliography, but I need to take breaks as I go, because the books are intense.)  After that, I wanted to pull something else from the library stack, so I grabbed Kathleen Collins’ slim volume of short stories, Whatever Happened to Interracial Love?, and plowed through it over a couple of days.  Short stories aren’t usually my jam, but I enjoyed these – just got lost in the writing and didn’t concern myself too much with plot or characters.  Finally, after a long and stressful week at work, I really needed some mental cocoa (trademarking that phrase, what do you think?) and I was behind on the #MissReadalong on Instagram, so I picked up Winter in Thrush Green.  Three months into the readalong, I am just falling in love with this town and these characters.

Watching.  Back to the usual this week – not much.  I’ve been taking a bit of a screen detox since the Olympics ended.  Steve talked me into an episode of Victoria on Saturday, though, and it was a good one.  We hollered with laughter at Victoria jumping up and down on the couch, and at her attempt to watch Albert give a speech to a London abolitionists’ meeting (“I’m here… incognito.” — “Pardon me, ma’am, but… your disguise is not impenetrable.”) – ha!  And Steve almost banished me from the living room when the Duke of Sussex appeared onscreen and I jumped up from the couch and shouted, “OMG, MR. COLLINS!  IT’S MR. COLLINS!”

Listening.  Sort of all over the place again.  Podcasts, the Forlorn Strangers, show tunes – the usual suspects.  Nothing jumps out as especially memorable.  The Book Riot Podcast‘s discussion on #MeToo hitting children’s publishing, I guess – an important conversation, but sad and tiring.

Moving.  Well, the biggest movement was on Thursday when I flew from Washington, D.C. to Providence, Rhode Island, drove into Massachusetts for all-day meetings, drove back to Providence and flew home – all in one day.  That was a long day.  Otherwise – nothing much to report.  The aforementioned hike on Sunday morning – that was nice.  I’m wearing my Fitbit and pretty consistently hitting 10,000 steps per day, which is not surprising given how many times I walk either to the kitchen to get juice for people, or to the copier to scan documents.

Blogging.  I failed you last week – I am sorry.  I promised my February reading list on Friday and I didn’t deliver.  It’s coming this Wednesday instead.  Will that work?  And then on Friday, I am celebrating my little puppy who is about to turn three.  How is that possible?  Hold me.

Loving.  I promise this weekly post isn’t going to become a litany of kid quotes, but I have to share with you something that Peanut said recently, because it has been putting a smile on my face more consistently than pretty much anything else.  Earlier this week, she was sitting at the breakfast table while I was making her toast and griping about something (probably about how overwhelmed I am at the moment) and she, sparkly little sage that she is, said calmly, “Don’t worry, Mommy.  No matter how bad things get, it’s nothing a little glitter can’t solve.”  Ain’t that the truth?

Asking.  What are you reading this week?

12 Months of Trails: Huntley Meadows Park in February, 2018

Oof!  It had been awhile since the last hike, and since I am doing the 52 Hike Challenge, trying to keep up a pace of one hike per week all year, I really needed to get back out on the trail – I’m way behind.  I also needed to get on the trail for my own sanity.  It’s been a particularly busy and stressful time at work and I needed to move my feet and breathe fresh air.  Check, and check.

Looking for something relatively close to our house, and short/easy enough to let the kiddos walk if they wanted to, we hit on Huntley Meadows Park.  Apparently we’ve been there before?  Steve remembers hiking there with Peanut in the Baby Bjorn shortly before she turned one.  I have no memory of this.  Guess I was sleep deprived?

The hike started with a nice, flat trail through the woods, and everyone’s favorite – explanatory placards about the wildlife in the park.  It’s mostly wetlands, which makes sense, because D.C. and northern Virginia is a swamp.  Peanut started the hike in the backpack, but Nugget wanted to walk.

Before long, the boardwalk began!  This must be a riot of green and life come spring.

We were a little anxious about letting Nugget walk the boardwalks, but he was wonderful – held tight to our hands and never tried to run off.  I carried him through certain sections that the geese seemed to like for their toilets – gross.  We were literally picking our path through mounds of goose droppings, and it was actually really smelly.  Yuck.  But only in sections.  I don’t know…

Spotted a few ducks out on the water.  This picture does them no justice – the males had the most gorgeous jewel-toned heads.

Eventually we made it across the wetlands to the other side of the park.  Although I love boardwalk hikes, I was kind of relieved to get off of the boardwalk this time – and away from the goose poop.

First thing’s first – we found an observation deck and climbed up to take in the scene from up high!  Nugget was particularly excited to have such a good view.  I guess when you’re knee-high to a grasshopper, it’s pretty exciting to get to look down at something.  Or he takes after his mom, who loves a good observation deck view.

Back on dry land!

And guess who decided to join the rest of the family with boots on the trail?  (She wanted to wear her school Mary Janes, and I vetoed them.  I was right, too – there were some muddy sections, and the rain boots were absolutely the correct choice.)

They both walked the rest of the hike – so Peanut walked the second half, and Nugget walked pretty much the entire thing (minus the goose poop sections).  I think they needed it, too.  The weather has been gross lately, and neither one of them has had enough playground or outdoor time.  A walk in the woods did us all good.

Oh, and the kids made friends.  We met a nice older couple who were in the park for some birdwatching but didn’t seem to mind our loud little critters.  They were grandparents and their grandkids are a little older than these two rugrats, so I guess they were used to it.  We walked with them for at least half a mile, maybe more, and the kids chattered their faces off.  They were patient and sweet, and promised that the kids were entertaining and not disturbing them.  Ha!

Such a lovely park!  I can’t believe I didn’t remember it!  We’ll have to come back when the birds return, and bring the zoom lens.

Have you been hitting the trails recently?

It’s Monday! What Are You Reading? (February 26, 2018)

Ugh.  Monday.  Why is it here again?  We haven’t even started the week and I’m already O.VER.IT.  The last two months have been such a slog of getting up early, working my butt off all day, going home to the parenting crush, and then getting back on the computer and working more.  And don’t even get me started on the weekends.  I don’t think there’s been a weekend in 2018 that I haven’t worked at least a little bit.  I hope all of this drudgery now will set me up to take a little time off here and there this summer, but who even knows?  Anyway, we had a pretty low-key weekend.  It was rainy and gross in D.C. basically all weekend, so we mostly hunkered down indoors.  On Saturday, we got out for a pizza lunch to celebrate Peanut’s half-birthday, and Nugget and I snuck off to the library during a break in the afternoon rain.  On Sunday, it was steadily raining and gloomy for most of the day, but we had happy plans, at least – a playdate with Peanut’s BFF.  She and her mom came over for a relaxing morning of baking and playing.  The girls made raspberry crumb bars (a Martha Stewart recipe, which turned out really well, especially when you consider that 90% of the work was done by a couple of five-year-olds) and played with Peanut’s dollhouse while the bars were in the oven, then had lunch and enjoyed their handiwork.  Yum!  The rest of the day – morning and afternoon – I mostly spent working.  What else is new?  I feel like these Monday reading posts have turned into a parade of complaints about weekend work.  Sorry about that, guys.  I promise it won’t last forever.  Busy seasons are very cyclical in my field, so there will come a time when I’ll go a whole weekend without firing up my laptop.  Seems hard to believe, but there will come a time.

Reading.  Very, very, very little to report this week.  It’s been more than a week and I am still reading Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s Half of a Yellow Sun.  That should really tell you something about how little time I’ve had to myself this week – because I’m a fast reader, and Adichie is an outstanding writer, so there is no reason that it should take me more than a week to read one of her books except for the fact that I barely have a second to breathe, let alone read.  There’ve been several days when the only reading I’ve done was on my morning commute, because I’m so burnt out by the evening commute that I end up zoning out to my earbuds the whole ride home, and the evening is spent hunched over the laptop again.  But I’m fairly close to finishing up with it, and I’ve got a lovely library stack calling my name for when I finish.  I’m torn between This Will Be My Undoing and What Ever Happened to Interracial Love?, both of which I’ve heard great things about.  It’ll be a game-time decision and it doesn’t seem like I can go wrong.

Watching.  All Olympics, all the time.  Steve has had it on while I’ve worked, and when I put my computer away for the evening, nothing sounds quite as good as curling up on the couch and cheering for USA Bobsled, or the snowboard kids, or Adam Rippon… Anyway, last night we watched the Closing Ceremonies, so next week it’ll be back to normal viewing – which is to say, hardly any TV at all – for another two years.

Listening.  I’m on a mission to finish a few things, so I’ve been dedicating a few commutes to listening.  I wrapped up the second season of Harry Potter and the Sacred Text, which continues to be a lot of fun and very thought-provoking.  And funny!  (“Dumbledore says it’s our abilities that define us, not our… our things.”  “Our things?!?!”)  And I’m a little more than ninety minutes out from finishing up the first series of Home Front on Audible.  (Still enjoying it, but the obsession has cooled a bit.)  The best listen of the week, though, was the newly revitalized Drunk Austen podcast.  I hope they start posting regularly!  And I also listened – a bit late – to the Valentine’s Day episode of Tea and Tattle, on favorite fictional romantic couples.  Austen couples abounded, but L.M. Montgomery, Maud Hart Lovelace, Elizabeth Goudge, Dorothy L. Sayers and Agatha Christie got shout-outs as well.

Moving.  I got a Fitbit!  I’ve been looking for a good activity tracker solution since my Garmin Vivofit bit the dust, and I finally stopped hemming and hawing and bought a Fitbit Charge HR.  I’ve only been wearing it for a few days, but it’s been really nice.  So far, I’m mostly using it to get a baseline on what my daily activity level is.  (Answer: better than I thought.  On a workday I average around 8,000 steps – not the 10,000 I aim for, but better than expected, especially given how much time I have to spend tied to my computer.)  On a weekend, unsurprisingly, it’s a lot more.  Oh, and I learned something – when I push the stroller, Fitbit logs that activity as “outdoor biking.”  Who knew?

Blogging.  It’s a recap-heavy week!  On Wednesday, I’ll share pics from last weekend’s hike at Huntley Meadows Park, and on Friday, I’ll have my February reading round-up for you.  Lots of good books this month – check in with me then!

Loving.  I think I have a new favorite recipe to bake with Peanut!  We started with the “jam crumb bars” recipe from Martha Stewart’s Baking Handbook, cut down the butter and sugar, and substituted rolled oats for half of the almond meal – perfect!  Crumb bars are definitely going on the regular baking rotation.  Peanut had such a blast baking raspberry crumb bars with her friend, and they’re really the perfect recipe to do with a budding baker.  Easy – no techniques more advanced than using a pastry cutter, which Peanut is well-versed in after our pie-making extravaganza following our trip to the berry farm last summer.  Fun – who doesn’t love squashing dough into a baking dish?  And endlessly customizable – we used raspberry jam, because Peanut’s friend is allergic to strawberries, but there are so many variations in jam flavors and even in the cookie part.  I’m thinking of apricot next time, or maybe even orange marmalade… and some shredded coconut…

Asking.  What are you reading this week?

Some Recent Bookish Acquisitions

As I mentioned a couple of weeks ago, I have been on a bit of a book-buying bender since finishing Project 24.  It’s been a little insane, but I’ve decided to just strap myself in and enjoy the ride, since I’m sure it will even out eventually once the novelty of just being able to buy a book if I want it, wears off.  I’m particularly excited about the batch that trickled across my threshold over the course of January and February.  (Pictured above, with Valentine’s flowers from my boys and my girl.)

  • The Real Mrs Miniver, by Ysenda Maxtone Graham (Slightly Foxed Editions) – I have a recent love for SFE, and couldn’t resist this addition to the collection because of (a) the gorgeous color, and (b) the subject.
  • Look Back with Love, by Dodie Smith (Slightly Foxed Paperbacks) – Described as a delightful memoir of an Edwardian childhood by the author of I Capture the Castle, how could I possibly say no to this one?
  • The Poisoned Chocolates Case, by Anthony Berkeley (British Library Crime Classics) – I’ve been slowly building up my collection of these forgotten mystery classics, and this seemed like a perfect addition for February.
  • English Country Houses, by Vita Sackville-West – This keeps selling out on Amazon.  Sackville-West was best known for her garden, Sissinghurst, and for having an affair with Virginia Woolf, but she also contributed a few novels and reams of classic home and garden writing, including this WWII home front morale-booster.

  • The English Air, by D.E. Stevenson – I saw this on a book blog (can’t recall which, now) and was intrigued by the story, and it came highly recommended as one of Stevenson’s best.
  • Mrs Miniver, by Jan Struther – Again, how could I resist?  This is a gorgeous 1942 edition with a “new” Mrs Miniver story.  I can’t wait to read it against The Real Mrs Miniver.
  • Laughter on the Stairs and Sunlight on the Lawn, by Beverly Nichols – Books two and three complete the Merry Hall trilogy (I already owned book one), a loosely factual chronicle of Nichols’ adventures fixing up an old Georgian house and garden.  Can’t wait to dig into these – I think they’ll be perfect spring reading.
  • The Sunny Side, by A.A. Milne – Since no one has seen fit to grant my wish of a complete collection of Milne’s writing for Punch Magazine, I’ll have to be satisfied with this collection selected by Milne himself.

Yes, it’s been a good couple of months for book collecting.  I’m relishing the newfound purchasing freedom and gleefully anticipating some many hours spent with a big cup of tea and each of these books.

How about you – any good additions to your library lately?

 

Good Neighbors: Emma and Miss Bates, Mary and Miss Matty, and Uncommon Kindness

 

She had never boasted either beauty or cleverness.  Her youth had passed without distinction, and her middle of life was devoted to the care of a failing mother and the endeavor to make a small income go as far as possible.  And yet she was a happy woman, a woman whom no one named without goodwill.  It was her own universal goodwill and contented temper which worked such wonders.  She loved everybody, was interested in everybody’s happiness, quick-sighted to everybody’s merits; thought herself a most fortunate creature, and surrounded with blessings in such an excellent mother and so many good neighbors and friends and a home that wanted for nothing.  The simplicity and cheerfulness of her nature, her contented and grateful spirit, were a recommendation to everybody and a mine of felicity to herself.

~ Emma

There is a certain variety of spinster that can be found peopling many a village in the dappled realm of imagination that is English literature.  Never flush with cash, their lives could be called simple to the point of dullness, yet they manage to live with a gentility and serenity that is almost too genteel and serene to be believed.  Spinsterhood, in Regency, Georgian, and Victorian times, was something of a dangerous occupation.  In a world where men held all the cards and all the power, women needed a man’s protection – husbands, fathers, or cousins or brothers who understood their relation of power and the responsibility that it ought to entail – in order to live even somewhat comfortably, an unnerving and perilous dynamic that female writers of the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries routinely explored.

Jane Austen’s Miss Bates is often held up as the quintessential example.  Miss Bates is poor.  She lives with her mother, the elderly and ailing Mrs. Bates, and the two ladies manage to scrape along and make ends meet somehow.  They live for visits from niece and granddaughter Jane Fairfax, and for the companionship of their neighbors.  Yet their relatively unprivileged position makes it all too easy for Emma – inconsiderate, selfish Emma – to demean and ridicule Miss Bates.  In condescendingly mocking Miss Bates, Emma thoughtlessly embodies the heedless cruelty of Georgian society toward the relative powerless.  Fortunately, Mr. Knightley calls her on it.

It was badly done, indeed! You, whom she had known from an infant, whom she had seen grow up from a period when her notice was an honour, to have you now, in thoughtless spirits, and the pride of the moment, laugh at her, humble her–and before her niece, too–and before others, many of whom (certainly some,) would be entirely guided by your treatment of her.–This is not pleasant to you, Emma–and it is very far from pleasant to me; but I must, I will,–I will tell you truths while I can.

~ “Mr. Knightley,” Emma

We have always lived genteelly, even if circumstances have compelled us to simplicity.

~ “Matty Jenkyns,” Cranford

Miss Bates stands in stark contrast to her Victorian descendent, Miss Matilda Jenkyns.  Miss Matty, as she is known to friends and compatriots, is a spinster living in reduced circumstances, which become even more reduced when a bank in which she had heavily invested goes under.  Yet Miss Matty survives because her friends rally around her.  Like Miss Bates, Miss Matty is beloved in her community.  Unlike Miss Bates, she receives nothing but respect from the young protagonist of the novel, Mary Smith.

We know far less about Mary than we do about Emma.  Although she is the narrator, she is not the focus of events in Cranford.  Elizabeth Gaskell gives very little information about Mary and her background, but it’s possible to piece together a few details – she’s a well-to-do young woman, if not as wealthy as Emma Woodhouse, her mother hailed from Cranford before marrying and leaving the town, and Matty and her sister Deborah Jenkyns are family friends with a close enough connection to host Mary for extended periods of time in their home and to receive financial advice (which Matty ignores) from Mary’s father.  Throughout the novel it’s clear that Mary, though an outsider, has great affection for Cranford in general and for Matty Jenkyns in particular.  While she may occasionally poke gentle fun at some of Miss Matty’s foibles (Miss Matty’s favorite economy – conserving candles – drives Mary batty, but she manages to play along and hide her exasperation) she never treats Miss Matty with anything less than kindness and deference.

For instance, in one scene, the Cranford ladies gather to watch a magician perform sleight-of-hand tricks.  Miss Matty is flutteringly anxious, worried that somehow the magic show might be offensive to Christianity.  She begs Mary to look discretely around the room and confirm if the clergy is present.

“‘Will you look, my dear—you are a stranger in the town, and it won’t give rise to unpleasant reports—will you just look round and see if the rector is here? If he is, I think we may conclude that this wonderful man is sanctioned by the Church, and that will be a great relief to my mind.”

~ “Matty Jenkyns,” Cranford

Mary obligingly cranes her neck around the room and verifies that yes, the rector is indeed present, sitting in the back of the room surrounded by a gaggle of schoolboys.  (Shortly thereafter, it is amusingly confirmed that the rector has agreed to take the schoolboys to the magic show as protection from what he views as the potential predations of another Cranford spinster, Miss Matty’s cousin Miss Pole.  Miss Pole, who is indeed interested in the rector but would rather die than admit it, sweeps imperiously past him and the schoolboys on her way out of the hall, ostentatiously ignoring him – much to his relief and the reader’s amusement.)

Can you see Emma Woodhouse staying with Miss Bates, accompanying her to a magic show, and agreeably spying around the room to verify that the minister is among the attendees?  I can’t.  (Nor can you picture Mr. Elton appearing at a magic show, can you?)

It is very pleasant dining with a bachelor.  I only hope it is not improper; so many pleasant things are.

~ “Matty Jenkyns,” Cranford

When disaster strikes Miss Matty, in the form of bankruptcy – she has heavily invested in the Town and County Bank, against the advice of Mary’s father, and the bank fails and ruins its investors – Mary spearheads Cranford’s efforts to take care of Miss Matty without letting her find out about it.  The Cranford ladies meet covertly and brainstorm ways to funnel cash to Miss Matty yet not damage her pride or her sense of responsibility for the bank, and Mary hits on the ingenious plan of obtaining a license for Miss Matty to sell tea and setting her up in business.  Mary’s father approves the plan and Mary herself stands guard over Miss Matty’s parlor, converted into a very discreet little tea shop – feeding Miss Matty a gentle fib about the dangers of candied almonds to prevent her from disbursing so many to the little boys of Cranford that she ruins her finances all over again.  The Cranford ladies suddenly find themselves in need of more tea than ever before and they buy up Miss Matty’s stock (ignoring her protestations that green tea is unhealthy) while Mary secretly works out a more permanent, and joyous, solution to Miss Matty’s financial woes and loneliness.

We all love Miss Matty, and I somehow think we are all of us better when she is near us.

 ~ “Mary Smith,” Cranford 

Emma learns her lesson, of course.  She’s abashed and ashamed after Mr. Knightley chastises her for her unkindness to Miss Bates, and she resolves to do better in the future – and she does.  She visits the Bates ladies, includes them in the life of the county, and doesn’t roll her eyes when Miss Bates waxes rhapsodic about Jane Fairfax.  In short, she grows up, and that is – after all – the story.  The reader is left feeling proud of Emma for showing personal growth and maturing into the role that has been reserved for her since she was born.

But Mary Smith doesn’t need to mature in order to treat Miss Matty with kindness and respect, the way Emma Woodhouse needs to mature before she recognizes her cruelty toward Miss Bates.  Mary loves Miss Matty, and it shows in every word of Cranford.  She willingly indulges Miss Matty’s eccentricities, misses Miss Matty when away from Cranford, and joyously returns to Miss Matty’s abode as if to her own home.  And Miss Matty, like Miss Bates, doesn’t lack for friends elsewhere in the village, either, as Mary’s father points out.

See, Mary, how a good innocent life makes friends all around.

~ “Mr. Smith,” Cranford

That’s true, but Mary doesn’t really need to be told.  Nor should Emma, and nor should we.

May we all inspire the same wealth of friendship as Miss Bates and Miss Matty do.

It’s Monday! What Are You Reading? (February 19, 2018)

Happy Presidents’ Day to my American friends!  I hope you’re getting a day off from work.  I’m not, although it’s self-inflicted.  My office is closed, so technically I don’t have to work, but I’m going in anyway to get ahead on billing for the week.  I’ll probably leave early, though.  Even though I knew I wasn’t (allowing myself to) enjoying a three-day weekend, I made the most of Saturday and Sunday – especially Saturday.  In the morning, we hit a local park for a long-overdue return to the trails.  More to come – with some crummy pictures, which all turned out blurry for some reason – next week.  Then in the afternoon, my BFF Rebecca came over and we headed out for a girls’ afternoon outing to “50 Shades of Rosé” at the French Embassy.  Ooh la la!  Fun to add another Embassy to my list – I’ve also attended parties, events or open houses at the British, Swedish, Canadian, Polish, Lithuanian and Greek Embassies over the years.  (And a big merci to Steve for pulling solo dad duty and facilitating some girl time.)  Anyway, if you haven’t guessed from the name, it was a wine-tasting event, hosted by Drink the District, focusing on rosé wines from all over the world.  French rosé is my absolute favorite wine, so I was especially excited about those, but the rosé vinho verde from Portugal was also a lovely surprise.  We swished, swirled, tasted, and got thoroughly soused, then came home and cooked pumpkin ravioli with sautéed kale in a creamy mascarpone sauce.  Hit the spot!  Sunday was more low-key and featured the usual neighborhood circuit – the library, fire station and playground – plus a trip to the bookstore for behavior rewards.  I squeezed in a few hours of work during afternoon naps, and we finished the weekend with a family stroll to the local soccer field for some running and kicking – ahhhh, perfect.

 

Reading.  Bit of a slow week – I can’t really explain why.  I took my time over Portrait of Elmbury, which I really enjoyed.  There were a few little moments here and there which were jarring to the modern reader, and knocked it down from five stars to four in my Goodreads ratings, but overall I found it a delight.  Then I turned to Half of a Yellow Sun, which I have out from the library.  I’m about 100 pages in – give or take; I can’t be bothered to check right now – and liking it, but I am lacking the attention span for reading much at the moment (blame the Olympics and work stress?).  Adichie is always a win for me, though, and Half of a Yellow Sun is as gorgeous as Americanah was.

Watching.  Olympics, Olympics, The Crown (Rebecca had never seen it – she accidentally watched The Royals instead, and that is NOT the same thing!), Olympics.  We’re actually starting to get a bit of Olympics fatigue, but as long as our heroic American athletes are competing and going for the gold, we will be cheering for them – we consider it no less than a patriotic duty.

Listening.  I am bouncing back and forth between series one of Home Front (WHEN are Ralph and Isabelle going to get together???) and the second season of Harry Potter and the Sacred Text.  I’m getting pretty close to finishing the Chamber of Secrets discussion, so I will probably focus on that during my commutes this week, and then go back to Home Front.

Moving.  I was starting to get really frustrated with the lack of movement in my life, and while I still haven’t found a way to get back to yoga and barre or out for a run, I have decided that at least I deserve to work some more motion into my everyday life.  So I’ve been getting off the elevator two floors below my regular floor and walking up (I’d do more, but three floors below is not occupied by my firm, and I don’t know if my keycard would work – I have no interest in being locked in the stairwell on someone else’s floor) and also using my DeskCycle at least three times per day, for ten minutes each time – so that adds up to thirty minutes of stationary cycling per day.  I’ll take it.  When the weather gets warmer, I plan to start getting off the subway one stop early and walking a few extra blocks to the office.  Anything to get the steps in!  And of course, I finally made it out for a hike this weekend.  Not the best week for movement, but not the worst.

Laughing.  This weekend, apropos of nothing, Peanut informed me: “Mommy, Parents’ Night at school is when your mom and dad go to your classroom and stick their noses in your business.”

Loving.  This is the unhealthiest thing ever, but I don’t care!  It’s GIRL SCOUT COOKIE SEASON!  We currently have two boxes of Samoas on our counter (I bought them from a work colleague) and are waiting for a delivery from a neighborhood girl as well.  It’s the mooooooooost wonderful time of the yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeear!  What are your favorite flavors of Girl Scout cookies?  I love Thin Mints and Samoas, which were always my mom’s order when I was a Girl Scout, but as an adult I’ve acquired a passion for Trefoils.  I keep them for special teatime treats and refuse to share them with my family.  They can eat their weight in Thin Mints and Samoas for all I care, but the Trefoils are MINE ALL MIIIIIIIIIIIIINE.

Asking.  What are you reading this week?