Memorial Day Weekend 2019

Happy summer!  My favorite-season-tied-with-fall is finally upon us, and I’m on a mission to make the most of it – as always!  This year, we decided that the beach was the best way to ring in the season, and on the Friday before Memorial Day we rolled up to the kids’ school with a loaded-down car, ready to drive to Virginia Beach for the holiday weekend.  I hope you’re ready for a photobomb of a recap post…

We arrived too late in the evening for any beach time on Friday, but the kids were up bright and early and ready for sand and saltwater on Saturday!  We were staying with our dear friends Rebecca and Eric, who live walking distance from this lovely, calm, clean and uncrowded beach on Chesapeake Bay (the Atlantic side of VB is much more the party side; this is a residential beach, frequented mostly by neighborhood folks, and we love it).  The kids made right for the water.

Rebecca joined us, along with Brandy the dog – who was eating up every second of all the extra attention the kids gave her.

There was ball-throwing.

And hugs-n-love.

We made a trip back for lunch, and then returned for the afternoon, then went back to the house for dinner, and made a third trip down to the beach to watch the sunset in a big crowd with the neighbors.  Beach sunsets might be my favorite thing ever.

The sun was starting to dip when we got to the beach, but we still had a good hour of light for splashing.

Soon the sun started dipping lower and lower.

Eventually, the sun dipped all the way down below some low-hanging clouds, and our light show was over.  It was gorgeous while it lasted.  And some people were worn. out.

Sunday morning dawned just as early as Saturday (and every other day, for that matter).  We’re always diligent about sunscreen, but after Mom got a little crispy on Saturday, we were extra-vigilant.  Peanut made sure my face was protected.

Loaded up the golf cart for another fabulous morning at the beach!  The paddleboards came this time…

(Who let Peanut drive?)

We got right down to the business of having fun.  Look, I caught a mermaid!

Mommy and Aunt Rebecca took the paddleboards out for a jaunt in the bay.  It was too choppy to stay out long – just staying upright was a major effort.  Rebecca and I each fell in once and I lost my hat, but the water felt good – at least, until we were back on shore and Rebecca remarked “I’m glad I didn’t think about the great white shark that’s been hanging around in the bay before we took the paddleboards out.”  Great… white… what’s that now?

After another morning of cooking in the sun and fortunately not meeting any sharks – we did spot a pod of Atlantic bottlenose dolphins swimming near shore, which was super cool – we headed back to the house for some downtime before sunset.

This is Peanut’s houseboat, where bubbles are blown.

They played horsey and drank virgin daquiris, because why not.

And then it was time to clean up and head out to dinner before the sunset!  Nugget fell asleep in the car and snoozed through most of the dinner (keeping it real, folks) but Peanut had fun soaking up all the aunt and uncle attention while her brother slept the meal away.

And then it was time to load up the golf cart and trundle on back down to beach for one more sunset.

Please don’t make us leave!

It was a wonderful weekend.  Warm, salty, full of laughter and fellowship with good friends.  I’d love it if we could make it back here before Rebecca and Eric move to Florida, but if this was the last hurrah, it was a good one.  And I do hope it’s a sign of things to come, because we are so ready for a magical, light-filled summer.

How did you welcome summer this Memorial Day weekend?

 

Garden Notes 2019: Bursting Into Bloom

The garden grows!  I think we’re officially into summer garden territory now.  We’ve got:

  • Greenery growing with wild abandon;
  • Yellowing leaves that need to be pruned… already (damn you, Virginia sun!); and
  • Beach toys everywhere.

We also have one missing stair railing – whoops!  After a substantial amount of nagging, our landlords finally made arrangements to have that fixed.  Hoping to have a fully-functional staircase again soon.  Anyway!  The garden!

Tomato pants are growing!  This one is looking a little spindly, which always seems to be the way with this pot.  What the what?  I didn’t snap a picture of my other tomato pot, but it’s looking better.  Both are showing signs of a few little green tomatoes, which is promising.  I’m being militant about the squirrel spray – these are my tomatoes!  The basil is looking pretty good, too – hoping this experiment of planting it together with the tomatoes works.  Otherwise I may end up back at the garden center buying another pot (twist my arm).

The mint is doing fabulously well!  This is spearmint, and a very happy spearmint it is, too.  Also – do you see what I see?

RASPBERRIES!  In POTS!  ON MY PATIO!  Happy dance, happy dance, happy dance.  This one wasn’t quite ripe yet, but there were two ripe ones when I checked on the plants after a weekend away.  Nugget and I enjoyed one each, and they were delicious.

Lettuces are doing well.  All three are butter lettuce, but the ones I planted in the larger pots have really flourished, and the one in the smaller pot is a bit stunted.  It might not be too late, though – in fact, maybe I will meander over to the garden center and get something a little bigger for this one, and move one of the basils into the smaller pot.  Hmmmmm.  Also: the lavender hasn’t flowered yet; I’m looking forward to smelling Provence on my patio this summer.

The herb pot is doing well, too.  Does anyone know if chive blossoms are edible?  Also, this lemon thyme turned out to be more of a creeper than a shrub, but I think it makes the pot look lovely (and you should smell it, y’all).

Finally – the blueberry pots are thriving!  I bought two varietals to see which was the better producer.  It seems the pot on the right is definitely going to be the star – too bad I’ve forgotten which varietal it is.  None of the berries are ripe yet.  I’m a little worried that they’ll be picked off by the neighborhood birds, but I’m watching the pots like a hawk (<–see what I did there?) and chasing away any critters who get too close to my precious berry bushes.

Here’s to another summer in the garden!

Have you planted your garden yet?  Planters or plots?  How’s it doing?

 

It’s Memorial Day! What Are You Reading? (May 27, 2019)

Good… afternoon, friends!  Happy long weekend to those of you who are celebrating, and happy Monday to all!  No morning post scheduled, because we were away this weekend – visiting our friends Rebecca and Eric in Virginia Beach – and were traveling back today.  I’m now back in NoVA, my fridge is stocked with fresh sliced fruits and veggies and homemade vegetable soup, I have a pot of homemade vegetable stock simmering on the stove, and I’m ready to begin a new week.  Our weekend started early – I worked from home on Friday, and Steve and I drove to the kids’ school together to pick them up at dismissal, and then we rolled right on down to the beach.  Woke up on Saturday morning ready to have fun and to soak in some sun and saltwater!  It was a relaxed, laid-back weekend; we mostly just hung around the neighborhood beach (on the Chesapeake, not the Atlantic, so it’s calmer and a little more kid-friendly) and trundled back and forth between the house and the beach in Eric’s golf cart.  This was probably the last time we visit them here, as they’ve officially put their house on the market and are preparing to move to Florida (sob).  No guarantees, though – if the house takes a little while to sell and they’re still around at the end of the summer we could mosey on back for Labor Day, but we’re not expecting anything.  Knowing that this was probably the last visit to them in VB, we devoted the weekend to together time.  There was lots of laughing, some cooking, and plenty of belly scratches for Rebecca and Eric’s dog, Brandy.  We took in two sunsets down at the beach, ate some fresh seafood, drank a few beers, and did some paddleboarding on the Bay (it was choppier than usual, and I fell off the board and lost my hat).  All in all, a soul-satisfying and revitalizing weekend.  If it’s a sign of things to come, we’re in for a good summer.

Reading.  I kept up a pretty good reading pace this week, although it’s about to slow down.  My Metro station closed as of Saturday, and won’t open again until after Labor Day – yikes.  I’ll be doing a lot of remote work this summer, and driving downtown a few days a week, which means all that transit-reading time is gone for the next few months.  So I got in as much commute reading as I could this week, and finished up Women of the Raj and The Bird King over a few Metro rides (and evenings at home).  I devoted the rides down to VB and back again to Digital Minimalism and finished it off on the playground this afternoon, while Nugget and a new friend raced their cars down the baby slide.  Summer’s going to be a slower reading season this year, which it often is, but I’m hoping to still get some good pages in.

Watching.  Two episodes of Undercover Boss – surprised?  Me, too.  Rebecca and Eric love the show, and they turned it on one evening this weekend.  Rebecca said we lucked into two of the worst episodes; I guess it’s usually a tear-jerker with lots of life lessons for bosses and employees alike?  The two we watched were so terrible that Steve, Eric, Rebecca and I were all rolling on the floor laughing.

Listening.  Podcasts, as usual.  I’ve noticed that I go on thematic jags in my podcast listening.  Sometimes I’m really into my book podcasts, sometimes I’m all about the environmental conservation and healthy living podcasts, and other times I go down a parenting podcast rabbit hole.  This week was the latter, as I churned through several episodes of The Mom Hour while working out at the gym, packing for the beach, and running errands around town.

Making.  Lots of making.  On Monday afternoon I spent a refreshing couple of hours in my kitchen and made a fridge full of healthy food for the week – always feels good to start things off that way.  Less prosaically, I also made a bunch of pretty decent pictures this weekend at the beach, and several videos; I’m doing a #OneSecondEveryday project for the summer, and I started it on Saturday.  (I’ll post the final product after Labor Day!)  And most importantly, I made lots of wonderful, sun-drenched memories.

Moving.  I had a decently active week.  Only one gym day, unfortunately – work got in the way otherwise.  But Rebecca and I did some stand-up paddleboarding in the Bay this weekend, and it was an especially good workout thanks to all the chop.  (I only fell in once, but staying upright and on my board was a huge effort in the rolling waves.)  And lots of kiddo-chasing and walking, as usual.  I’m hoping to start working some more runs into my routine, and I got some new tie-dye running shoes to motivate myself.  Don’t judge.

Blogging.  An outdoorsy week, after an outdoorsy weekend!  I’ve got a garden update coming atcha on Wednesday, and a huge photo bomb of a travel recap on Friday.  I hope you like beach pictures!

Loving.  It’s probably a little early to say I am loving this, but I’m really excited about my #OneSecondEveryday project.  For those who haven’t heard of #OneSecondEveryday, it’s an app that lets you upload very short – like one to three second-long – videos, which it then mashes together and sets to music for a montage of snippets of your life.  (I learned about the project on The Yellow Note, but forgot to download the app in time for a year-long project beginning on January 1st and continuing all year.  But a summer-long project seemed like a good way to get in the habit.)  I have only been at it for three days, but I am having so much fun taking the videos and watching as my montage of moments grows.

Asking.  What are you reading this week?

Paddling Season 2019 Begins!

It’s here!  It’s here!  IT’S HEEEEEEEEEERE!  Pardon me, friends, but I can barely control my glee, because – paddling season is here!  I adore pretty much all paddlesports, but kayaking is my first and most enduring love, and I was starting to develop a twitch after only making it out on the water once last year.  (As old friends may recall, we spent pretty much every moment we could on the hiking trails last year, churning through the 52 Hike Challenge, which was a lot of fun but which definitely got in the way of kayaking.  It also didn’t help that we had such a wet summer last year – most weekend days saw a steady downpour, and when the weather was actually nice enough to get out, the boathouses were closed due to high water from all the rain.)  But as I said when I recapped the #52HikeChallenge, that was not going to be the story of 2019.  As Steve and I prepare for a weeklong ecotouring adventure in the Pacific Northwest, we are taking every chance we can to get those paddling muscles into shape.  And since last weekend was the first weekend the boathouses were open – some of them, anyway – we loaded up our gear and headed out as soon as we could.

We’d planned to put in from our favorite spot – Fletcher’s Cove, just upriver from Georgetown.  But it was closed due to – what else? – high water.  So we hurriedly scrabbled together a Plan B and headed off to check out the Wharf Boathouse instead.  The boathouse staff were duly impressed (or maybe amused) when we rolled up all holding our own paddles and with 3/4 of us sporting our own PFDs.  All we needed were the kayaks and a PFD for Steve.

For the first time, Nugget and I got a double kayak.  Last year, I kept him close to me in a single kayak, but at four, he’s old enough to follow directions and to understand that he needs to do what I say around the water in order to stay safe.

Peanut’s an old hand in the double kayak.  Can you even handle how bored she is?

We put in right at the Wharf and started paddling right away.  I loved the little blue and yellow ferries they had for transporting people across the river (which was very narrow at this particular spot).

That view!  I’ve never seen the Washington Monument from the water before – what a cool perspective.

Waved hello to the big yellow water taxis.  Nugget is the only one in our family who has ridden on one.  (How? you ask.  His nanny took him on an outing to National Harbor.)

There was also sightseeing for Mommy.  This boat is the Sloop John B.  Singing happened.  Around Nassau Town we did roam

We headed to the nearest bridge, which was the boundary point for the Wharf kayak fleet, then turned around and went as far as we could in the opposite direction.  It was a lovely day out, and wonderful to feel the sun – but I have to admit, I couldn’t forget that I was paddling an urban river, the way I do when we’re at Fletcher’s.  I spotted a few pieces of debris in the river and it just felt busier and less pristine than the upriver area where we usually paddle.

Anyway!  We turned around again and headed back to the dock, but not before detouring briefly to check out the D.C. fire and police boats.  Nugget is obsessed with the Alexandria fire boat and we visit it about once a week, so he was delighted to see Fire Boat 201’s big city cousin.  The biggest of the fire boat fleet we saw was the John H. Glenn, Jr., and as we waved and turned our bow away we had NO IDEA how soon we would see that fire boat again – but the very next day, as we were walking the waterfront trail down in Alexandria, the John H. Glenn, Jr. came puffing along up the river, passing within 20 feet of our beloved Fire Boat 201 with streams of water spouting from every hose.  We were pretty sure it was some kind of a challenge.  Reports that we started snapping our fingers like the Jets and the Sharks are not exaggerated.

Heading back to the dock, checking out that view one more time.

And there we are – back to shore.  It was a short hour of kayaking, but felt so good to shake the dust off and be back out on the water.

The kids were decently good – good enough, at least, to earn a nice long stomp ‘n splash session in the fountain right by the boathouse.  Nugget enjoyed using his paddle to redirect the water sprays at the adults.

All in all, a successful first time out on the river, with many more to come!

Pssst – if you’re curious about our equipment:

  • Me: Werner Camano paddle, Stohlquist Flo PFD.
  • Steve: Werner Camano paddle, rented PFD.
  • Peanut: O’Brien kids PFD, youth paddle purchased on Amazon and no longer available.
  • Nugget: Speedo toddler PFD, youth paddle purchased on Amazon and no longer available.

Now back to daydreaming about the next paddle…

Spring Scenes

I’m not recapping all of our spring fun here – just the highlights.  Mainly that’s because I don’t want this blog to turn into a “family activities” blog – I’m trying to keep it mostly focused on books, with some fun here and there.  And I don’t want to burn out on writing recaps before the high season of summer fun hits.  But I’ve been snapping pictures all over the place as we are out and about, enjoying the warmer weather.  In addition to daffodil picking and the Raptor Fest, we’ve done quite a lot.  Here are some snippets.

We visited Kenilworth Aquatic Gardens for the first time.  My parents and our family friends joined us, and we had fun exploring the ponds and boardwalks.  The kids earned their Junior Ranger pins – adding to the collection.

I hear it’s really beautiful in July, when the water lilies are blooming!  Made a note to go back.

Steve’s mom visited for a weekend.  She loves the zoo, so that’s always on the agenda when she’s in town.  Grandma thought she was going to the zoo with two kids, but – SURPRISE! a cheetah and a wolf came instead.  (Fun fact: I was the face-painting girl at my church’s children’s programs in high school, and at Peanut’s request I recently dusted off my old skills.  Steve said that I could have a lucrative side hustle if I set up with my face paints at the entrance to the zoo – at least until someone asks me to leave for not having a valid vendor permit.)

Nugget got a new scooter for his birthday (thanks, Nana and Grandad!) and obviously, the first place he rode it was the firehouse.

We took a walk around Old Town to look at the blossoms.  Don’t you just love redbuds?

Visited #MirrorMirrorALX, a cool new art installation by the waterfront.  If you think it was hard to get Peanut out of here – it was.

Picked strawberries on our neighbor’s patio (with permission – she’s sweet and generous and planted these just so the kids could pick them)…

And at a farm out in Bealeton – or at least, we did our best.  Nugget and I were the only ones picking (Steve is colorblind, so he had an excuse) and I was in Birkenstocks, so I couldn’t exactly wade into the puddles between the rows.  But we came home with a good haul even by picking around the edges.

Steve and I went on a date night to a secret bar.

And I met up with my friend Susan to see “Rightfully Hers: Women and the Vote” at the National Archives museum.  The perks of working in downtown DC = free museums!

So – not a bad spring!  Lots of fun here and there.  But I’m ready to move on, now.  My nose is finally clear, the sun is baking down, and Memorial Day weekend is right around the corner (we have fun plans!).  SUMMER, let’s do the thing!

It’s Monday! What Are You Reading? (May 20, 2019)

First things first: happy birthday, Dad!  And happy new week to the rest of you.  How were your weekends?  Ours was busy – even for us.  It started early, with “Grandparents and Special Friends Day” at the kids’ school.  None of our grandparents or friends were available this year, so Steve and I were reppin’ for the insane playdate posse.  The school planned a full morning slate of activities – first, playing and tours of the classrooms (Steve went to kindergarten this time, since I spend so much time with Peanut’s class as part of my room parent responsibilities, and I spent some quality time in preschool with Nugget), followed by an all-school chapel and then the spring concert, which was a show tunes theme (my favorite!).  Nugget’s class sang Edelweiss, Peanut and friends performed Do-Re-Mi, and the whole early childhood program came together for So Long, Farewell.  The kids had an early dismissal, so we all went home together and Steve and I spent the afternoon trading off one of us trying to keep them quiet while the other took work calls.  It was a hectic afternoon, and we were much relieved when the kids’ favorite babysitter pulled into the driveway and we were able to take a well-earned date night, which ended up being something of a bar crawl.  We started at Captain Gregory’s, a secret local speakeasy – Steve had never been there and he thought it was so cool – then went to Brabo and finally to Vermillion.  It was a completely decadent night and we loved it.

On Saturday morning, we were up and out the door early to hit the river for the first time this season.  Our usual kayaking spot, Fletcher’s Cove, was closed due to high water levels, so we took the opportunity to check out a new-to-us launch spot and headed over to the Wharf Boathouse.  It was a great time, and so cool to see the Washington Monument from the water – a new perspective!  We explored the area, then headed home for a quick lunch before Peanut and I were back out the door to see a performance of Winnie-the-Pooh at the Adventure Theatre.  (I had actually planned to take Nugget to this show, and bought the tickets with him in mind, but after the disaster at Huck Finn’s Big River I decided Peanut was a safer bet.)  On Sunday, we had another early morning activity planned – a trip out to the country to pick strawberries and enjoy festival fun.  It was a successful morning, I guess, because we did come home with strawberries.  But it was also a bit of a battle.  The kids bickered, whined, threw tantrums, and generally acted like little jerks all morning.  (Aren’t we rotten parents, making them go to a strawberry festival?)  In the afternoon, Steve wanted to check out a vintage car festival that was going on in our town, so we walked out to do that and – despite two generally grumpy and uncooperative kids, managed to make a nice afternoon of it.  I finally got to pay a visit to the new indie bookstore (and left with an armload, #supportindies) and we somehow managed to cajole the kids for a stop at one of our favorite local restaurants for drinks and bruschetta.  After all that, I’m sure you’re not surprised to hear that I ended the weekend collapsed on the couch.

Reading.  It was also a busy reading week.  I’m continuing to just barely stay on top of my library deadlines, but I did indulge in a new comic this week.  First, though, I finished up Travel as a Political Act midweek, and polished off Provence, 1970 by Saturday night.  (It took longer than usual because a visit from my BFF on Thursday evening and date night on Friday meant two evenings away from my reading lamp, and I worked from home three days this week, which is approximately three hours of commute reading lost.)  On Saturday, my pre-ordered copy of Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez and the Freshman Force arrived, and naturally everything else had to wait until I’d read it – it was fantastic, but needed more Ilhan.  Finally, I turned my attention back to library books, and am currently working my way through Women of the Raj, which is fascinating.

Watching.  The only thing I watched this week was my babies performing songs from The Sound of Music in their spring concert – and that was the best watching ever, so really, nothing else could have compared.

Listening.  The usual this-and-that.  Podcasts – the Sorta Awesome summer list episode was obviously a highlight.  And Peanut and I listened to music on our way to and from Winnie-the-Pooh: Offa Rex on the way over, and the Jesus Christ Superstar soundtrack on the way back.  (Not what you were expecting?)

Moving.  A couple of gym days this week, plus an hour of kayaking on Saturday and lots and lots of walking on Sunday – not too shabby!  It’s crunch time; summer vacation beckons and I have to be in paddling shape.

Blogging.  I actually don’t know what I am going to post on Wednesday – I don’t have it planned.  So we’ll all be surprised!  On Friday, I’m sharing more snaps and stories from kayaking at the Wharf this weekend.  Check back!

Loving.  Can I tell you about my favorite pants?  I’m completely in love with the Vista camp pants from LL Bean.  I own both the pants and the shorts in both navy blue and army green, and they are THE. BEST.  So comfortable to wear, perfect for hiking, quick-drying for when I’m out on the water – I basically live in them whenever I’m not in work clothes.  (Am I considering picking up a pair or three of the crops?  Yes, yes I am.)

Asking.  What are you reading this week?

Raptor Festival at Mason Neck State Park

Every Mother’s Day for the past three years, we have hit the trails at my favorite Virginia state park – Mason Neck – for a celebratory hike.  And for the past two years now, we have been surprised to find that our park, which is usually fairly quiet, is noisy with the sounds of kids laughing and owls hooting – it’s the annual Raptor Festival!  This year – once again – we didn’t plan for it, but were jazzed to find the festival in full swing as we arrived.  Nugget enjoyed greeting all of the characters – a bald eagle, an owl, and a fox park ranger – as we walked by.  (Peanut did not.)

First stop was the hiking trail, of course.  We were here for a hike and we were not leaving without it, no matter what else was going on.

Hello to the turtle pond!  The turtles were sunning themselves on logs, soaking up the warm late spring light.  Steve and I eyed the kayaks and discussed paddling out onto Belmont Bay next time we come – when it’s not so busy.

The hike was curtailed by a cloud of buzzing bees, but we got a good stretch of the legs and some lovely scenery before turning back.  Neither of the kids were feeling it, anyway.  There was way too much excitement and too many fun things to do – the trails were not enticing today.

First up: raptor talk #1.  We met a barred owl, a great horned owl, and a teeeeeeeeeny tiny screech owl.  Peanut was in bird heaven.  (New friends: she’s obsessed with birds of prey.)

We did some fishing.  I managed to get away without taking any free swag home, and Peanut scared several older boys away from the pool.

There were horseback rides.  Nugget spotted the horses from all the way over on the playground and begged for a ride.  Peanut wasn’t into the idea at all, but as soon as she saw her brother up on “Mickey,” looking for all the world like a natural…

Saw that coming.  They both had a fantastic time.

We treated ourselves to egg sandwiches for lunch, and then it was time for raptor talk #2.

Seriously, why are screech owls so stinking cute?

It was a busy, wild morning, but I had so much fun.  There’s nothing I love better than being outdoors, unless it’s doing fun things for the kiddos.  When you get to combine both – it’s a clear win.

Happy Mother’s Day, again, to all of my friends!  I hope you had a wonderful time celebrating with the moms in your life!

The Glimpses of the Moon, by Edith Wharton

Edith Wharton was already at the height of her powers and acknowledged as one of the most important American writers of an age – maybe ever – when she first published The Glimpses of the Moon in 1922.  Most of her best-known works, including the big three – The House of MirthThe Custom of the Country, and The Age of Innocence (my favorite) – were behind her.  Yet, for some reason, The Glimpses of the Moon is shrouded in semi-obscurity even as Wharton’s better-known works continue to be read and discussed.  I’m not sure why.  If anything, I’d have expected Moon to be one of the most enduring, as it has all of the hallmarks of Wharton – her characters traipse around Europe, flit in and out of drawing rooms, have relationship agonies on Venetian balconies, and shop for furs – but (spoiler alert!) it ends happily.  (Of course, I’d disagree with those who believe that The Age of Innocence ends unhappily.  I think Newland Archer ends up with exactly the right person, and the only tragedy in the book is the fact that he’s too dim to realize it.  FIGHT ME.  But I realize that’s an unpopular opinion, and I won’t deny that Innocence is poignant.)

The Glimpses of the Moon spins the tale of a marriage conceived as a business arrangement but that soon takes on a greater significance.  Nick and Susy Lansing decided on a whim to marry.  They were good friends, liked each other immensely, and there was an undeniable spark – but the marriage itself was something between a big joke and a limited liability partnership.  Both the “poor relations” in their group of friends, both social hangers-on, they concocted a scheme to marry, collect lots of wedding checks, and spend a year honeymooning in their rich friends’ villas, palaces and manor houses.  If at any point in the marriage, one of them caught wind of an opportunity for something better – a wealthy spouse, for instance – they’d part as friends, no hard feelings, and give one another a leg up.

The suggestion, at first, had seemed to Lansing as mad as it was enchanting: it had thoroughly frightened him.  But Susy’s arguments were irrefutable, her ingenuities inexhaustible.  Had he ever thought it all out? She asked.  No.  Well, she had; and would he kindly not interrupt?  In the first place, there would be all the wedding presents.  Jewels, and a motor, and a silver dinner service, did she mean?  Not a bit of it!  She could see he’d never given the question proper thought.  Checques, my dear, nothing but checques–she undertook to manage that on her side: she really thought she could count on about fifty, and she supposed he could take up a few more?  Well, all that would simply represent pocket-money!  For they would have plenty of houses to live in: he’d see.  People were always glad to lend their house to a newly-married couple.  It was such fun to pop down and see them: it made one feel romantic and jolly.  All they need do was to accept the houses in turn: go on honey-mooning for a year!  What was he afraid of?  Didn’t he think they’d be happy enough to want to keep it up?

I’m sure you see where this is going.

Although both entered into the partnership with eyes wide open, the business side of things falls away fairly quickly.  Spending the first part of their honeymoon at their friend Charlie Strefford’s villa on Lake Como, Nick and Susy become deeply attached to one another.  And then Nick starts to feel squeamish about the foundations on which they’ve built their relationship.  There are little squabbles to start – how Nick hates Susy’s habit of referring to her sponging off rich friends as “managing” – and then a big blowup when Nick realizes how far Susy has had to bend ethics to make their plan come to fruition.  It’s not so much that Nick suddenly acquires scruples, as that he doesn’t really consider how the arrangement is going to work until they’re in the thick of it.  And when he finally looks the situation full in the face, he can’t handle it and he bolts.

And that’s just the first third of the book!  Nick and Susy spend the bulk of the novel separated from one another, each missing the other horribly but afraid or unwilling to admit it.  Susy drifts from rich friend to rich friend and nearly becomes engaged to their old friend Streff, suddenly and unexpectedly elevated to the peerage.  And Nick has his own flirtation with possibility when he becomes private secretary to a fabulously wealthy family and their daughter confesses her love for him.  Yet deep down, each knows that their hearts are not free and never will be.  But they will need to do a lot of growing before they can realize it.

Susy’s growth happens gradually over the course of the novel.  She gradually becomes disenchanted with the glittering social world she moves in, disgusted by her so-called friends’ loose morals and shifting definitions of marriage, and disillusioned by the pointlessness of it all:

That was the way of the world they lived in.  Nobody questioned, nobody wondered any more — because nobody had time to remember.  The old risk of prying curiosity, of malicious gossip, was virtually over: one was left with one’s drama, one’s disaster, on one’s hands, because there was nobody to stop and notice the little shrouded object one was carrying.  As Susy watched the two people before her, each so frankly unaffected by her presence, Violet Melrose so engrossed in her feverish pursuit of notoriety, Fulmer so plunged in the golden sea of his success, she felt like a ghost making inaudible and imperceptible appeals to the grosser senses of the living.

“If I wanted to be alone,” she thought, “I’m alone enough, in all conscience.”  There was a deathly chill in such security.

Nick, meanwhile, has his own growing to do.  It’s far easier to sympathize with Susy than with Nick, who had eyes wide open at the beginning of the deal but who deserts Susy with no explanation when she is at her most vulnerable, and who lets months go by without delivering the letter he had promised to send within a few days.  Nick will come to his own realizations, but I don’t want to tell you about them, because I don’t want to take away the delights of how it all comes together.

It’s no secret that I love Edith Wharton – all the more for feeling as though I need to make up for lost time with her.  When I first read Wharton, in high school – Ethan Frome as a class assignment and The Age of Innocence on my own – I didn’t care for her at all.  I was bitterly disappointed, because I so wanted to love Wharton’s books.  I knew that she had made a home in western Massachusetts, just a short distance from where I grew up in upstate New York.  But her books left me profoundly disappointed.  Then years later, in my late twenties, I picked up The Age of Innocence again, and fell hard and fast for it.  My friend Susan has a theory: she believes that teenagers are incapable of enjoying Wharton, or George Eliot for that matter, because they write about adults not being able to do whatever they want – and that is the last thing a teenager wants to know about.  Certainly I was unable to appreciate Wharton when I first tried (I never even attempted Eliot until my thirties) and now, she’s a favorite.  The Glimpses of the Moon was a wonderful read.  It didn’t eclipse (<–pun intended, #sorrynotsorry) The Age of Innocence for me, but it is solidly in second place.  I think that Nick and Susy wouldn’t disagree.

Have you read Wharton?  What’s your favorite?

It’s Monday! What Are You Reading? (May 13, 2019)

Happy new week, and happy Monday after Mother’s Day to my friends!  I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend – whether you were celebrating, being celebrated, or both – and that you’re feeling refreshed and restored going into the week.  (And for those of you for whom Mother’s Day is hard for any reason – I see you, and I honor you and send you virtual hugs and strength.)  This was definitely a good one around these parts.  On Saturday, we drove down to Mason Neck State Park – my favorite Virginia state park – for a hike.  It’s becoming a tradition to hike at Mason Neck on Mother’s Day, and it’s also becoming a tradition to roll into the park and be surprised to find that the annual Raptor Festival is going on; this was the second time we’d wandered into a parkwide celebration of birds of prey at Mason Neck.  Because both of my kiddos are obsessed with raptors (Nugget loves bald eagles, and Peanut is a falcon kind of girl) you’d think we’d actually plan this – but it’s always serendipity.  Anyway!  We did it all – hike along the Bay View Trail, playground stop, fishing in a baby pool, strawberry shortcake donuts from a mini yellow camper van, horseback riding, and two raptor demonstrations starring five different owls.  (More stories to come on Friday.)  I was glad to get some outdoor time in on Saturday, because Sunday was rainy and gross.  Obviously we went to the aquarium, which was bumping.  (Steve said it must be the destination of choice for ocean-loving moms on a rainy Mother’s Day, and I think he was right.  This ocean-loving mom had a great time.)  And the spoiling continued when we got home, as the kiddos presented me with a new life jacket and a beautiful boxed set of Jane Austen books.  I’m so grateful to have them, and while it’s nice to know that my hard work and sacrifices are appreciated – I felt like I should be thanking them for making my life so full and sweet.

Reading.  It was a lovely, if slow, reading week.  On Wednesday evening I finished up Good Omens, just in time to discuss it with the one member of my book club who showed up.  I think we might be fizzling out… But the two of us had a lovely chat about the book, sipped some rose and ate spanakopita, and it was delightful.  On Friday I finished up Factfulness while Steve was out with a friend, and over the weekend I’ve been slowly making my way through Travel as a Political Act, which I am loving (and trying to savor).

Watching.  An episode of Parks and Recreation here and there is just what the doctor ordered.  (I know as soon as Good Omens drops I’m going to be throwing everything else aside.)  Oh!  And the trailer for Where’d You Go, Bernadette – anyone else seen it?  What did you think?  I’m excited, although some of the lines in the trailer (like, “I think my mom just got so focused on her family that she forgot about herself” and “The answer to your problems is – get your ass back to work”) made me furrow my brow a little bit.  It seems like the screenwriters changed the story a bit, but maybe the trailer is just… off.  In any event, I hope they do the book justice.

Listening.  The highlight of the week in listening was – I finished up The 46 of 46 Podcast!  Really enjoyed it, and it made me want to get back to the mountains sooner than later.  (I don’t have any Adirondack trips planned, sadly.  And spring and summer are booking up fast.  But maybe this fall?  I need to get back to Saratoga to see my grandmother sooner than later, too.  It’s been a few months, which I don’t like.)

Making.  Soup for the week – hurray!  I always feel more grounded and less scattered when I have a big container of soup to ladle out for lunches during the week.  This week – potato, cabbage, gardein beefless ground, and a blend of tomato soup and homemade veggie stock.  YUM.

Blogging.  Another book review coming at’cha on Wednesday, and more about the Raptor Festival on Friday.  This is the time of year when my family fun posts and recaps start to heat up – what can I say?  I love me some summer fun.

Loving.  I’ve probably plugged for the International Rescue Committee before, but I just love their Rescue Gifts.  The kids dedicated gifts of school supplies for Christmas gifts to their teachers, and after recently – on a whim – looking IRC up on Charity Watch and discovering that they have an A rating (way to go!) I decided to send newborn baby kits to Zimbabwe in honor of my mom and her dear friend (who is like another mother to me) for Mother’s Day.  (I thought of Hans Rosling as I purchased the kits – he spends quite a few pages of Factfulness arguing that the most impactful thing anyone can do to bring more of the world out of poverty is to dedicate resources to improving basic primary health services.)  It felt wonderful to do something that I knew would make a difference to another mother, and my mother’s friend sent me a lovely email telling me how much it meant to her to receive the IRC’s notification that I had dedicated a newborn baby kit in her honor.  Warmth all around!

Asking.  What are you reading this week?

Garden Tasks: May 2019

The weather is warmer, the spring rains are nourishing the little plant babies (and washing the pollen away, a nice and welcomed side-effect) and the garden is starting to grow!  More to come in a full update in a couple of weeks, but the tomato plants are getting taller and sturdier, the blueberry bushes are showing berries already, and I’m tied in knots trying to decide which squirrel-repelling techniques to employ.  (Spray all day?  Cage the plants?  Water dish on the other side of the patio?  All of the above?)  May is a month for doing lots of upkeep, but not too much harvesting – yet.  Here’s what I’ve got on deck for the month (and some of the tasks are already completed, but who doesn’t like putting an already-done item on a to-do list just for the satisfaction of checking it off?):

  • Plant the rest of my lavender, and the daffodil bulbs I picked up at Burnside Farms, in the front garden.
  • Stay on top of weeding between the bricks on the back patio.  Take the weeds to the compost tent at the weekly market day instead of just throwing them in the trash.
  • Start harvesting lettuce leaves and herbs as they’re ready.
  • Prune dead leaves (how, already?) from the raspberry bush.
  • Make a decision about whether the buttercrunch lettuce is staying in its current pots or moving somewhere else.  If somewhere else, figure out where that somewhere else is and then make it happen.
  • Keep researching squirrel repulsion and (maybe?) come up with a plan.
  • Bury my Beltane offering in the flower patch.

What are you up to in the garden this month?