THE AGE OF INNOCENCE

 Newland Archer is Old New York.  A favorite Fifth Avenue son of the Gilded Age, he moves effortlessly and seamlessly through its rigid social hierarchies.  And with his impending engagement to May Welland, widely regarded as the most beautiful, elegant and unattainable of the New York belles, Newland’s place in society is secure.  The union of Newland’s family with May’s will bring together New York’s two most powerful ruling clans.  But May’s family, the Mingotts, in addition to being powerful, has its unconventional elements.  May’s cousin, Ellen Olenska, nee Mingott, has just returned to New York, fleeing a disastrous marriage to a Polish Count.  New York is scandalized by Ellen’s vaguely foreign ways and her seeming incomprehension of the delicate social balance she has upset simply by imposing her presence and asserting her right to be free from a “scoundrel” husband.  Responding to calls of the family matriarch, May’s grandmother Catherine Mingott, Newland rallies around Ellen as a good soon-to-be Mingott son-in-law should.  He gently smooths over her social stumblings, even using family connections to persuade the revered van der Luydens to rescue Ellen’s reputation when the rest of New York conspires to snub her.  But as Newland finds himself drawn more and more into the role of Ellen’s champion, he simultaneously becomes deeply infatuated with this woman who understands art, literature, and the value of good conversation in a way that his chosen wife never can and never will.  Newland chafes and struggles painfully with the bonds of New York’s expectations for him – wanting nothing more than to desert May and run away with Ellen.  But is he, in the end, capable of choosing love over convention? And does he even really, in his heart of hearts, want to choose?

The Age of Innocence has been on my to-be-read list for years.  It’s a book that I knew was going to be good, and I knew I’d like it once I got started, but it just never cycled to the top.  I was in London when I was hit by an inexplicable urge to pick it up the moment I got home – and I did – and I’m so glad.  When I finally sat down with it, I loved every single page.

First of all, the characters were just perfect.  Newland – with his inner conflict between choosing an “artistic” life and toeing the line.  May, quietly assured, blissfully uncomprehending, almost cold in her conventional perfection – but with the ability to shock Newland by suddenly demonstrating great strength, understanding, and wisdom.  Ellen, so lost and sad, artlessly setting New York tongues on fire with her most innocent gestures, drawn helplessly to Newland but unwilling to allow him to ruin himself for her.  And then the secondary characters – imperious, unconventional “Granny” Catherine Mingott.  Newland’s dull mother and sister.  The criminally cruel and common Julius Beaufort, hypocritical Lawrence Lefferts, comically domestic Wellands and the shy and withdrawn van der Luydens.  Every single one, flawlessly drawn.

Then there was the plot.  You would think a will-he-or-won’t-he infidelity novel set in Gilded Age Manhattan would move slowly. It doesn’t.  It skips along briskly, as you watch Ellen blunder through social gaffe after social gaffe and you see Newland transform from a cousinly champion to a heartbroken would-be lover.  It might be a function of the writing, which is magnificent.  It never bogs down or becomes wordy, but neither is it clipped and terse.  Wharton’s word choices simply set a perfect tone for the underlying events of the novel. I loved the descriptions of the New York scenes through which Newland, May and Ellen move – I felt like I was with them in drawing rooms, carriages, on stately lawns and snowy streets.  And the dialogue was so smooth and natural that I felt as though I could hear the characters saying the words out loud.  It’s no wonder this novel won the Pulitzer Prize – it’s as darn near flawless a book as I ever read.

I’m going to stop the gushing here.  Just go read it.  Please.

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Thanksgiving Recap

It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas!  But first things first – hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving weekend!  Whether you were visiting family, hosting, or just enjoying a relaxing weekend at home, I hope it was great.  Hubby and I just returned from my parents’ place in upstate New York and it was quite the whirlwind weekend.  I ran in the local Turkey Trot, met my high school BFF’s baby for the first time (TOO cute) and squeezed in time with two aunts, three grandparents, one brother and three friends.  Yowsa – busy weekend.  Here are some highlights…


Table at my mom’s house all set for Thanksgiving dinner.  Gobble, gobble.


My brother whipped up homemade New England clam chowder with clams he harvested himself from the Great Salt Pond on Block Island. 


Look at my handsome husband waiting patiently for Thanksgiving noms!


Black Friday fun – meeting up with my favorite aunt in Saratoga Springs for lunch.  Joc, your mom says hi!  Lunch with my aunt and tea with hubby’s aunt was better than shopping any day.


And the fun continued on Friday evening when hubby and I met up with our friend Seth for dinner out and a jaunt through the holiday lights in Albany’s Washington Park.  This is a holiday tradition that Seth and I started ten years ago – WOW – when we were juniors at Cornell, and hubby joined us for the first time in 2005 (our first holiday season as a married couple).  Dinner and lights in the park with Seth is something hubby and I look forward to all year long and it’s always a blast.  We talk and laugh like old friends should, and it never seems as though we live 300 miles apart.  Luv ya, Seth!

Hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving weekend!

The Gratitude Project

How was everyone’s Thanksgiving?  Did you stuff yourselves silly with Tofurkey and mashed potatoes?  And pie?  Can’t forget about the pie!  Did you see a cornucopia and dive for cover because you’re still scared of them after reading The Hunger Games?  Did you put shoe buckles on anything and pass it off as Pilgrim?

And in between the Tofurkey-eating and shoe-buckling… did you spend some time reflecting on what you’re thankful for?  Sometimes I forget to do that, I’ll be honest with you.  It’s terribly easy to take things for granted.  And while I try not to take the big stuff for granted – like my marriage and my home – it can be easy to forget about the slightly smaller, but still important, things.  For instance, sometimes it’s too easy to get caught up in the fact that there is a Whole Foods employee blocking my access to the organic bell peppers and get frustrated… when what I really should be thinking is about how lucky I am to have access to a nice grocery store and enough greenbacks to buy organic bell peppers if I want them.  Or I’ll think, “Wow, it’s such a beautiful day.  Can’t believe I have to sit in an office all day.”  When I really should think, “Wow, it’s such a beautiful day.  Can’t believe I get to look at that beautiful blue sky and take my lunchtime walk down Embassy Row – how lucky am I?”

Yeah, I have it pretty good.  You probably do, too.  Are there things about my life that I’d like to change?  Sure.  Is everything perfect?  H-E-double-hockey-sticks NO.  But that doesn’t mean I can’t be grateful for all the good stuff I do have going on, and count my blessings every day.  I always try to do that.  Sometimes I’m pretty good at it.  Sometimes I’m not.

Well, I’ve decided to take this counting blessings thing to a new level.  And I figured the day after Thanksgiving was as good a day as any to start.  What am I going to do?  I’m going to jump on the gratitude journal bandwagon.  I have friends who keep gratitude journals, and I’ve always thought it seemed like such a heartwarming, life-affirming practice.  And you know what?  I could really stand to spend more time appreciating and less time complaining.  Hey, I’m not saying I’ll ever stop sweating the small stuff completely.  I probably never will.  But I can find three things a day that I can be grateful for.

Yep, them’s the rules.  Three things, per day, that’s it.  They can be big things – like, “I’m grateful to be married to such a funny, smart, and sweet guy.”  Fact.  Or small things – like, “I’m grateful that my iPod spontaneously started working again.”  Or even really obvious things – like, “I’m grateful for Mariage Freres tea.”  As long as I can think of three things to be grateful for each day, I’ll be in pretty good shape.

Let the gratitude begin.

Maple-Date Banana Bread

Happy Thanksgiving!  Do you have your stretchy pants ready?  Marshmallows for the sweet potatoes?  Tofurkey roast defrosting?  Oh, who am I kidding?  Of course you do.  After all, Thanksgiving dinner is the meal we’ve all been preparing for all month, isn’t it?  You don’t need me to tell you what to have for dinner tonight.  But… have you considered Thanksgiving breakfast?  I mean, that is, if you’re not fasting in preparation for the big meal.  If you’re looking for some last-minute easy but festive breakfast to fuel you up for the Turkey Trot or the parade-watching… well, look no further, friends.  I have one.  This is a simple, but moist and delicious, banana bread.  It’s literally ready in two shakes of a turkey’s tail.  And it’s basically fat-free and sweetened with nothing but maple syrup and fruit.  So there ya go, you can feel good about indulging in a slice of this bad boy.

See you at the Turkey Trot!

Maple-Date Banana Bread

1 cup plus 2 tablespoons all-purpose or white whole wheat flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
1/2 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup applesauce
1/2 cup maple syrup
2 large eggs
1/2 cup diced dates
2 medium-large bananas, mashed
1 teaspoon vanilla extract

  • Preheat oven to 325 degrees Fahrenheit.
  • In large mixing bowl, whisk together dry ingredients (flour, baking powder, baking soda, salt).  Set aside.
  • In small mixing bowl, beat together applesauce and maple syrup until combined.  Beat in eggs one at a time, then beat in chopped dates, mashed banana, and vanilla extract, one ingredient at a time.
  • When wet ingredients are thoroughly mixed, add to dry ingredients and fold together until just combined.  Transfer to loaf pan and bake for between 1 and 1 1/4 hours.  Remove from oven when a toothpick inserted into the center of the loaf comes out almost clean (there will probably be a little bit of banana stuck to it; don’t worry about that).  Allow to cool slightly before slicing and serving (if you can!).

Source: Loosely adapted from How To Be A Domestic Goddess, by Nigella Lawson (Amazon link for convenience only; I am not an affiliate).

Bull Run Mountain

I’d been wanting to hike Bull Run Mountain for years.  It’s out in Manassas, Virginia, not far from the Civil War battlefield, but less touristy.  In fact, hubby – who is usually hip to all the worthwhile hikes in northern Virginia, had never even heard of it.  Still, he was on board the moment I told him where we were going this weekend… because I saved Bull Run Mountain for a special occasion: a surprise hike for hubby’s birthday.  And it was the perfect hike to celebrate with – quiet, but not deserted, just challenging enough, and with a payoff of great views at the top.  We’ll be back for sure.

 Happy birthday, handsome!

Armchair Traveler

Yesterday at work we got to talking about what we’d do if we won the lottery or somehow came into oodles of cash.  And that conversation turned into a discussion of what we are most inclined to drop large chunks of change on.  One co-worker loves shoes, another jewelry.  For my part, I confessed that I’d most likely spend my money on experiences – especially travel experiences.  No one was really surprised – after all, I did just hop a plane to England a month ago.  And to France the year before that.  Yes, travel – especially European travel – is definitely my weakness and what I like to daydream about.  In fact, I think that if I suddenly came into wealth, I’d live pretty much as I do now – which is to say, well within my means – but I’d travel a lot more.

Sadly, however, I am not loaded.  I can afford one spectacular vacation and a few shorter weekend getaways a year – both in terms of dollars and in terms of time away from work.  But that doesn’t mean my mind is always in NoVA.  Far from it.  In between trips, I tide myself over by reading travel books… and I have a few favorites, which I am now going to tell you about.  I’m wordy that way.

A Year In Provence, by Peter Mayle – This has to be my favorite travel book of all time.  I read it for the first time when I was actually in Provence, and I laughed my head off at the antics of the locals (that goat race? sublime) and at Mayle’s struggles to renovate his house.  I read it whenever I want to feel the warm Provencal sun on my face – even in the depths of winter.

Encore Provence, by Peter Mayle – Can you tell I like Peter Mayle?  (I would also recommend Toujours Provence, by guess who, but that might be overkill.)  In this volume, Mayle and his wife return to the south of France after several years away and hijinks ensue.  And after reading about the intrigue-riddled truffle trade, you’ll really cherish that bottle of truffle oil we all know you’re hiding in your pantry.

My Life in France, by Julia Child – I think my journey to France began when I read Julia’s memoir of her time there, a year before I actually went.  Julia chats about Paris, Marseille, food, and her social circle in post-war France.  It is magnificent and so much better than Julie and Julia.  If the movie had just been based on My Life in France, I’d have been thrilled.

My Love Affair with England, by Susan Allen Toth – You knew England would turn up sooner or later in this list, didn’t you?  I’ve loved this book since high school, when I read it to escape before I’d ever been to England.  It’s warm, funny, personable, but honest.

A Year in the World, by Frances Mayes – The author of Under the Tuscan Sun explores the concept of home as she trots around the globe.  Her chapter on Andalusia is marvelous and her description of a Scottish garden planted the seed of going to Scotland long before I’d ever been.

Notes from a Small Island, by Bill Bryson – Hilarious depiction of England and its people from the perspective of a long-time resident outsider, this book is part memoir, part travel guide, part goof.  No one is safe around Bryson – he skewers everyone, including himself, with his trademark wit.  My favorite part?  When Bryson goes shopping with his English wife, spends two hours wandering around lost, and then miraculously ends up right where she told him to meet her, at the proper time, too – and then acts offended when the Mrs. is surprised.

That’s just a selection of my own personal favorites.  What about you – any favorite travel books?

Pumpkin Mac ‘n Cheese

I’ll just say this up front: I’m already married.  Sorry, boys.

That out of the way, here’s how you can handle your disappointment – make this macaroni and cheese recipe.  It’s a keeper (like me).  See, every week I ask hubby if he has any special meal requests before we go grocery shopping.  Usually he doesn’t, but this week he asked for my baked macaroni and cheese.  I said sure, and was all set to make it, when at the last minute I decided it would be fun to add pumpkin to the mix.  I asked hubby if he minded, and he was surprisingly enthusiastic about the idea.  And let me tell you guys, it was GOOD.  The pumpkin makes the sauce extra creamy, and you don’t need quite as much cheese as in the original recipe.  It’s almost healthy!  Okay, that’s a stretch.  But it’s fun to have mac ‘n cheese now and again, and if your family includes it as a side at Thanksgiving – mine doesn’t – consider making this pumpkin version for a little extra-Pilgrimmy flair.  Shoe buckles not included.

Pumpkin Mac ‘n Cheese

1 box short pasta, such as macaroni or tubetti
kosher salt
2 tablespoons butter
2 tablespoons all-purpose flour
1/3 cup beer (or dry white wine)
1 2/3 cups milk
1 14-ounce can pumpkin puree (NOT pumpkin pie filling)
1 block cheddar, grated
pinch nutmeg
1 1/2 tablespoons thyme
freshly ground black pepper
panko breadcrumbs
freshly grated Parmesan cheese
extra-virgin olive oil

  • Preheat oven to 375 degrees Fahrenheit.
  • Fill medium-sized pot with water and bring to a boil.  Salt generously and add pasta.  Cook until pasta is just al dente, drain and set aside.  Return empty pot to burner and turn heat to medium.
  • In pasta pot, melt butter.  Add flour and whisk vigorously until mixture is bubbly.  Add beer and milk and stir until sauce thickens and becomes a smooth bechamel.
  • Add pumpkin to bechamel sauce and stir until completely smooth.  Melt in grated cheese, then add nutmeg, thyme and pepper to taste, and stir to combine well.
  • Return pasta to pot and mix thoroughly until pasta is completely coated with cheese sauce.  Pour pasta into large casserole dish and spread evenly.
  • Sprinkle panko breadcrumbs over top of pasta and add grated Parmesan (you be the judge of how much you want!).  Drizzle top with olive oil and bake for 30-35 minutes.

Source: Adapted from recipe here, which was adapted from Williams-Sonoma Savoring America (Amazon link for convenience only; I’m not an affiliate).

My Second Home

I love libraries.  Having access to a good library is a huge quality-of-life thing for me.  Let’s face it, without the library I’d probably be flat broke and chewing on book pages instead of organic vegetables.  I grew up going regularly to my town’s library, which was satisfyingly stocked with Agatha Christie mysteries and Pearl S. Buck novels.  (Note to self: re-read The Good Earth, preferably soon.)  And I think I might have been the only kid to actually borrow from my junior high and high school libraries.  I was weird that way.  College and law school were an embarrassment of riches on the school library front, and when I got married and moved out to Arlington, Virginia, I had the pleasure of belonging to a really world class public library.  In fact, when hubby and I left Arlington to move into our forever house, one of the few things I was sad about was leaving the Arlington library.  But I’ve found a new home in Sherwood Regional Library, one of the outer branches of the Fairfax County library system… a small branch, yes, but with a great collection and the ability to get me pretty much any book I might want from another Fairfax County library if it’s not at my home branch (which has only happened once – I can almost always find whatever book I want right in the stacks).  I find I have grown to feel really at home at Sherwood – it’s cozy, and they keep me in books.  What more could a girl want?  And since I’m there on pretty much a weekly basis, I’m shocked I haven’t shown you guys around yet.  Let’s have a look, shall we?

This sign stands right outside the main doors to welcome you.  It makes me grin every time I see it, because I am truly proud and happy to call Fairfax County my home.  I love the beautiful natural surroundings, the friendly people, and all the great community resources – and it’s getting better all the time.  I particularly love Fairfax County because hubby and I chose to make our home here.  I love being an adult and being able to live wherever I want, and this is definitely where I want to live.  But I digress.  Let’s go inside…

First view upon walking in the doors – the information desk and a central well with desks and computers, and the shelves extending out in a U shape.  (Sorry for the not-great picture quality.  I had my camera on the wrong setting and didn’t realize it at first.  I figured I’d already made myself obtrusive enough with my gigantic dSLR so I didn’t want to re-shoot.)

Is there anything better than the sight of full bookshelves?  Especially when they’re library bookshelves?  Hello, library books.  I’m Jaclyn.  You probably know me as That Girl Who Hangs Out Here Every Saturday.  Don’t worry, I’ll take you all home in turn.  All in good time, my wordy little friends.

I can usually be found here, in the fiction section (or a few shelves over, in the mystery section, rifling through the Alexander McCall books).

And I almost always stop off here, too – at the Holds shelf.  This is where all those shiny, sought-after new releases wait for the lucky, patient people who have been inching their way up the waiting lists.  I’m on the waiting list for at least seven books at all times, so I almost always have something fun on this shelf.  For example, after I snapped this picture I went ahead and snatched up the copy of The Magician King that was waiting for me.  Oh happy day!

Goodbye, lovely lovely Sherwood Libe.  See you next weekend.

London Acquisitions: Tea Edition

I’m not like other girls.  When I travel, I don’t come home with a bagful of the latest European fashions… silk scarves… even home decor items.  No, when I go to Europe I come home with TEA.  Lots and lots and LOTS of TEA.  That’s just how I roll.  Wanna see what I got?

 

Sweet France from TWG Tea

 

Magic Moment from TWG Tea

 

Strawberry Black from Harrods

 

English Breakfast from Harrods

 

Royal Tea from Whittard of Chelsea (couldn’t resist)

 

Assam Harmutty Tips from Whittard of Chelsea

Now who wants to come help me drink all of this?

Four Shame

I’m almost ashamed to tell you guys this, but if I can’t come clean to my three blog readers, then to whom can I come clean?  (Grammar.  Embrace it.  Fear it.)

I’ve been a bad reader.  I’ve been flighty and flaky.  I’ve become… a bookslut.  (Ahem, Mom, that just means I have lots of books on the go, not that I’ve been reading D.H. Lawrence or flirting with male librarians.  I swear I haven’t flirted with a librarian since college.)  After an incredibly focused month of book monogamy in October, I currently have FOUR… count ’em, 1, 2, 3, FOUR… books on the go.  And I’m beginning to despair of ever finishing any of them.

Here’s what I’m reading now…

As Always, Julia – Loving this collection of letters between Julia Child and Avis DeVoto.  I started it before England and have been enjoying every minute.  If only I could stop getting distracted by new shiny books.

Night and Day, by Virginia Woolf – Started in London, still plodding along.  Would really love it if I didn’t keep wandering away.

The Lantern, by Deborah Lawrenson – Waited several months for my turn to take this new release out of the library.  It’s one of the new shiny books that’s distracted me from the above.  Bad Jac.  Like I said, flakey.

The Age of Innocence, by Edith Wharton – Chalk this one up to my apparent A.D.D.  I was reading Night and Day in London and thought, “When I get back to the Colonies and finish this up, I think I’ll be in the mood for some Edith Wharton.”  (Yes, I really think these thoughts.  Yes, I am super cool and have tons of friends.  Thank you for asking.)  So I got back to the Colonies all right, but I couldn’t wait until I finished Night and Day to dive into The Age of Innocence.  I was just too excited.  This despite the fact that I’ve had The Age of Innocence on my bookshelf for, literally, YEARS, and never even blinked at it before.  I guess I needed to be deep into a book about London in order to care about Old New York.  This is the twisted way my mind works, people.

What to do, what to do?  I know one thing’s for sure: I cannot, repeat, cannot, start any new books or I might not actually finish anything this month.  Hold me to this, people.  No.  New.  Books.  Until I finish all four of these.  Or until my other current library book (The Girl in the Garden by Kamala Nair) is due back.  I got that one off the waiting list too and can’t return it.  I like to live on the edge.  But seriously, guys, I need you to hold me accountable.  If you see me with a book in my hand, and it’s NOT one of the above, please take it gently out of my hands and then punch me in the face.  Thanks.  I’m counting on you.